Longest you and bf/gf have gone w/out sex?

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It has been about a week and 1/2 since my bf and I have had sex, we are not fighting or anything. 2xs I have intiated it and he has said no, once he was too full from dinner and yesterday he was sore from working out and mowing. It hurts me when he turns me down, it doesn't make me sad that I don't get to have sex, it makes me wonder if he wants me. yesterday when he said no he said that he is not slcking and that he has sex with me all the time. We use to but not as much anymore. I have put on weight or anything, i am the same physically. It makes me feel like we are drifting apart, we have been together almost 2 yrs, I try and do stuff to spice up our relationship but nothing seems to work. I love him and want him, but lately he doesn't seam to want me. :( What can I do?
 
Tell him how u feelthe world would be alot better plase if people would just say what was on there minds I always say what is on my mind and ya I get into troble alot but hey I don't have to worry wether the guy likes my or not cause I just say it and I am the happies person on the face of the planet
 
MAYBE HE HAS SOME OTHER ISSUES THAT'S GOING ON AND HE JUST ISN'T INTERESTED IN SEX, THAT'S NOT USUAL FOR MEN THAT'S MORE OF A WOMAN PROBLEM BUT HE COULD JUST BE GOING TROUGH SOME TYPE OF DEPRESSION
 
2 weeks and my hubby dose this to me sometimes, Its not you,guys do that,when he is ready he will let you know,he may be under stress,so don't worry about it all that much.
 
If he is in the gym he has the energy. He might have a std or tired from someone else. Ain't no guy turning down a quickie.
 
sounds like he is just comfortable with you if he is not coming in late or going out alot for no reason than you should'nt worry you maybe just blessed with a good guy!
 
im betting that hes insecure about his stuff if yu know what i mean mean if i was id probably say no but tell him that no matter what yull still be together then hold him and make him feel like a man or whatever and try and seduce or w.e. yu chicks do


good luck
 
ok, i will be the kill-joy....the longest time was about 2 weeks and i found out he was cheating on me, and in that time he decided he wanted me...but i found out before we ever were intimate again and i got out of that relationship! bye bye! see ya!
i have now been married for almost 13 years to an awesome dude and we have NEVER had any troubles in that area!
Good to be married!
 
we have went without it for six weeks he is a truck driver and i went home to have my baby.
 
Well then you ignore him to get what you want cause then he would be begging you to have sex with him and then it will spark.
 
Well me and my boyfriend haven't had sex yet soo....

But I dont think its that he doesn't want you, maybe he's really genuinely not in the mood. Sometimes it's good to go without sex just so you can get closer to each other emotionally...don't worry about it, when he's ready, im sure he'll initiate it himself :-)
 
It's normal after you've been in a relationship for a couple of years for a couple not to have sex as often. There are things that come up that make sex not so much of a priority (I'm sure you've had days that you didn't feel like doing it, he does to!). I've heard a good sex life is usually 2-3 times a week for long relationships, however there will be times when you get more and when you get less. I've gone a couple weeks in a relationship w/o sex and everything was fine.
 
10 days is not that long... you didn't say how old you were, but there could be many things in play here. Work stress, kid stress, money trouble, just being tired and/or not having enough time. I would just tell him that you love him and when he's ready, you are "ready" and let it goes. If it goes much past two-three weeks you need to have a more serious talk. I don't know many men who will go three weeks without sex unless there is a specific reason.
 
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