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I've been missing the Logs and I've had a lot to complain about, and now, I am going to do so. For those who wonder, this is a tl;dr post.

I already ranted about my wife on another thread recently, but just yesterday she confessed that the only way she can see herself being happy is for me to drop everyone else I care about in the world, and just hang out with her full time... doing... well... nothing. She is very surprised that I haven't done it, and she doesn't see why I would rather do anything but be with her. I love the girl, but as time goes by, she's getting more mental. I invited her to come with me and the response was negative to say the least. It just pissed me off, because it's so mental, and I can't figure out how to fix her.

My friend is not helping the situation. He's always asking me for more time, and I just don't have it. I spend as much time as I can with him, I like hanging out and having fun, but I have some responsibilities. I'm trying to keep things going with my wife, and his constant trying to get me to do things on days he KNOWS is set for the wife, gets on my nerves.

Work, fucking work. There are two of us at this shitty job who keep things running. Yet, every time they hire some dumb ass, they give them way more slack than we get. They fuck up, and fuck up, and miss work, and they're still giving them chances. If I did it, or the other competant employee, we'd most likely get fired. They hired some spoiled ass bankers son to work here, and he can talk up a good game, but he's just horrible. He wont listen, can't remember anything you train him on, and wants nothing to do but sit around until it's time to go home. So when told this, the owners get defensive on HIS side???? I don't care if his father is your banker, what the fuck does that have to do with anything? Plus the kid has convinced the owners he's some computer expert, and the fucker can't even download files off the 'net? This one seems to be a class issue, because the owners are assuming that a rich kids son just must be better than people who work for a living. Seriously.

I'm tired of getting older, I know there's no hope, but fuck it. I never expected to live this long with my total lack of regaurd for my personal safety and well-being. Yet, I have arthritis, and various other problems that are making each day a special slice of hell. I'm just fucking sick of it. So you're young for a few years, and then old forever? If there was a God I'd punch it in the nose for this stupid idea. The worst part is living and accepting lower and lower expectations while remembering what it was like to not have to do that. I'll be glad when I move on and make way for the kids, so they can fuck it up worse, and then be thinking the same shit when they're my age.

Finally I'll end this one with the middle east. You can't avoid hearing about it, and I'm fucking sick of it. I wish they'd just either blow the shit out of eachother once and for all, or shut the fuck up. Europe did it. America, the new kid on the block, did it. The USSR fell all to peices, and yet, they've done it. Why can't those fucking people just either give into the hate and go nuts, or just fucking stop all thier bullshit? Fucking nutbags, fighting over shitty real estate and stupid religious things for how long? 20k years? Who really knows. Talk about a people who can't grow up, sheesh.
 
Welcome to life bud.

You should never have to FIX your wife. Being married is a full-time job, so ask yourself who or what you are devoted to. Like i said in the previous thread... i see divorce full steam ahead.

Buck up and talk to her if you wanna save anything, see whats on her mind other than just wanting you there. Perhaps she is going through something you dont understand. I dont know man... life should not be this hard if you mad sure that you are doing and getting what you want.
 
Wow bro, some of that shit at work is really fucked up.

As for your wife, I think you and her should go to relationship counciling, it would probably help things straighten out alot.

And your friend that craves time, you might want to spend more time with your wife instead, because she should be your #1 priority, like a full time job.

You can't stop yourself from getting older on the outside, but you can always stay young on the inside.

That middle east stuff is total bullishit, I agree. They should just blow eachother up and get over it.

Goodluck with all the stuff you have going on, man.
 
Yup, hence the name of the forum: life sucks. Hope you cheer up man, look on the bright side. I know it's easy to say, but try to cheer up. You can look at everything, and find something wrong with it. You just need to find whats not wrong in that thing. I guess what I'm trying to say is that the glass is half full (although I often think that it's half empty).
 
Well I have no experience with the wife stuff, all i know is that a good talk with her and ex-changing of thoughts will help alot.. It's probally one of the best ways to get through problems, it's best to talk and try to state the problem and fix it.

As for the kid, that complete bullshit, I have nothing else to say besides that.. As for the rest of what you said, growing up sucks, and the shit in the middle east is bullshit also..

Lets just Blow up the whole god damned world, that take care of: Your wife, your friend, growing up, lazy ass kids, wars etc..
 
The more I hear about your wife the more worried I get. No spouse has the right to ask you to give up all outside contact for them. That is typical of an abusive relationship. Abuse doesn't have to come from hitting. The psycological abuse can be worse. Everyone needs outside interests and friends outside work and family. Yes, you have to spend time in the relationship. That time needs to be a larger chunck than spent with friends or on hobbies. But quantity doesn't make quality. Quality is what is important. She also needs to have friends outside work and family. If she doesn't she needs to make some. I still say she needs counciling on her own, but relationship counciling can be a big help for you both.

You're a bit young for Arthritis. I also suffer from Arthritis. I have Osteo. I am currently waiting for a new hip. Have you been to a doctor? Rhumatoid usually hits younger and is more devastating in the long run. If you have RA, then you need to see a doctor asap. If you have OA, you also need to see a doctor asap as the wear and tear and be slowed in both cases. Losing weight and maintaining a normal weight can help a ton. I know, I had let my weight creep up years ago and it affected my OA. I didn't like how the doctor wanted to treat it, with pain meds and cortisone injections. I was about your age now when this happened. I managed to keep it from affecting my life for about 10 years by taking the weight off and keeping it off. So if you are carrying any added weight, try exercising. Losing though diet alone makes you lose muscle too. Muscle is needed to kick the metabolism into high gear.

The crap on the job. That really is life. I know it sucks, but just let him fall flat on his face. Don't cause it, just don't help him or bale him out. Then, if you can, fix it after he screws it up, but be sure the bosses know you fixed it.

As for the middle east, why is it easier to wish they'd just blow each other up then to wish that they would realize that we are all just people wanting the same things for ourselves and our families? Why can't we all just live in peace together?

Take care and I hope things get better for you soon.
 
I've always kind of considered life as being a sort of pyramid. There's the spiritual, or internal side, which is totally personal unto yourself. There's the family/friends/loved ones side, which includes what you do for and with them. And there's the real life side, which includes earning a living, paying for whatever is needed, schooling, etc. As long as at least one of those piece parts is good, then the others can be dealt with. It's when all three of those are going kathwackata that the mind starts self-destructing.

This is going to sound totally too flower child, but try to find something, anything, that gives a "happy place" feeling. Some escape mechanism that will allow you to recoup and recover from all the other shit that happens. It could be doodling cartoons while watching TV with your wife. Or singing opera when your co-worker pisses you off. Anything that is just for you. Find it, hold onto it, and use it whenever you feel the need.

It won't change how your wife thinks, or the lack of appreciation at work, or the need for attention your friend is requesting, but it may, just possibly, allow you to carry on without having your body or mind start rebelling.

Hang in there, friend. :hug2:
 
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