living in the moment tips?

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Does anyone have any ideas/tips on how to live in the moment?

I am so terrified of aging and dying that it consumes me. I keep feeling myself as aged in the present and feeling how awful I will feel then and I keep feeling my death and feeling how awful that will be etc.

I wish I could just take it one day at a time and focus on the now but I HAVE NO IDEA HOW TO DO THAT.

I am so lost and hopeless now- I just don't know what to do anymore.

I loathe myself-my looks, my life, my personality, my clothes , everything and I have no idea how to build up my self-esteem

I have no idea what to do about anything.
 
Hi! Are you seeing a therapist or taking medication, do you have any outside support?
 
You can't make these things "go away." The harder you try to make them go away, the harder they pull. That is the nature of OCD. It attaches to your fears and the more you fear it, the stronger it becomes.

SounRAB like you have a lot going on. I would suggest going to a psychologist and/or psychiatrist for behavior therapy and/or medication. I would suggest going to a behavior therapist that specializes in OCD. Specialization is key since they know exactly how the disease works. Its not like any other anxiety disorder.

Just to let you know, I have felt the same way. I have obsessed about the meaning of life, how much time i have, how old I feel (even though I am 20). These are depressing thoughts for sure. You're not alone. I am currently in session with my therapist and am seeing results. They are slow, but I can feel a change. I am also on Effexor which has helped me out of my depressive state. Nobody can function or think when they feel depressed. Might want to look into that.

Hope this helps and stick with it.

~Stuart
 
i have the same problem..only more hypocondria..every ache is cancer or heart trouble....i am 66 so there is something about death lurking behind me..i am terrified and suffer so much anxiety and panic with this...my drs answer was....."we all die we cannot do anything about it"......wow that helped me a lot NOT
 
I am not well at all. I am losing it. I cannot handle this overwhelming knowledge of my aging and mortality.


I have been in therapy for a long time and tried meRAB but NOTHING works because I am resistant to allow it to and I just don't know how to change it.

I lost everything in my divorce. I will never recover. I have too many issues.

everything I do is a struggle. I trouble, bug and harass my mother, father and brother by desperately asking them to help me and they are exhausted from trying and me not being able to help myself.

and I cannot. I just can't. i lost everything. i cannot accept my divorce, being a single parent, having my kiRAB only half the time, aging, dying.

I don't know what to do. I am so hopeless and desperate and afraid and worried that nothing is going to get better or help me.

i am so scared.
 
Try helping others - volunteer for those less fortunate, visit house bound seniors, take walks, buy a dog.
 
Theres an extrememly good book, by DR wayne Dwyer (or dyer) I read it alot, it changed my life around....I re-read it because occassionally i slip back into be afraid of everything and anything!
IT is called Living in the moment and you can also check him on the web
Hope this helps
 
I have had this before. I had a therapist tell me a great line, "no feeling lasts forever." It is true - eventually you get sick of it and it won't mean much. I was obsessed with my own mortality back in HS, but I'm over it now. I have OCD so my obsession has switched to other focuses but I dn't care about death or dying anymore - I don't want to die obviously lol but I'm no obssessed with it anymore.
 
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