Life sucks for women....

As DG said you could always do foster care. Then theres adoption or (God, I'm hung over and can't think) um, um , that sperm in another woman without the sex thing.

Your still a full woman. A woman is strong yet giving. What I see of you on this site, your definitely a woman.

I gotta find some Advil.



EDIT: As Bitch states in a post a few down, the term that I couldn't think of is artificial insemination. Duh. I knew that.
 
NavyPrincess73 I completely empathize with you! I got my tubes tied right after my last child. I will no longer be able to conceive children. ( there are many reasons on why i did it but now i am only a few years off of having my insides removed for close to the same reasons) That decision has kinda scared my 'womanhood phycie'.I also understand the (i don't want anymore but now i can't)(if thats the case) I know that you didn't have a choice in the matter, just know there are other people that will give you support!!

Lots of ehugs!!
You have my support!
 
You guys are great and I thank you all for the support.

I am starting to feel a little better...Your words that a woman is strong is a true fact and I know after all i have been through in my life I will get passed this as well. I still fear the part of the other half (my boyfriend) being ok with it that I will never be able to give him a child of his own.

I mean one that carries his name and has his DNA. I know most men would like that and I am sure my boyfriend will support me in this but as I have said before I already went through one man that said in hte beginning that he could and would be ok with that but then after a year and a half dumbed me because he decided he couldn't.

Just scared of all the stuff that comes with it I guess.
 
Hey, I'm so sorry for what you are going through. People are right though that it's not your parts that make you a woman. You are a woman no matter what!

I can't really add too much to what has already been said. I also have to admit I wanted to say this before finishing reading the posts so I hope I'm not repeating the advice given.

Was it just a hysterectomy that is what the doctor want? Are they leaving your ovaries behind? If they are, they can still use those eggs of yours and have a serogate take on the task of the pregnancy. The baby would be completely yours and your boyfriend's baby genetically wise. The procedure is expensive though, but it's an option if you still will have your ovaries. If not, then maybe someone in your family can do artificial insemination or IUI using your bf's 'deposits' so at least half of your baby is his genetics and the baby would still be in your family.

Those are options at least. I don't know if things are that serious at this moment, but there are ways to do things to get at least part of the job done if it means getting at least a part of one of your DNA's as part of your child or children.

The only other option is adoption. You don't have to go through foster care if you really want a newborn. There are open adoptions where you and the mother and the agency can decide how much contact if any the birth mother is to make during the life of that child. But, at least it would be a newborn that you and your bf raise as your own. It's still a very personal choice and the desire for this baby can at least assist in the feeling that this is your child. In some cases, you can help the mother along and watch her during her pregnancy and her changes. There are closed adoptions with newborns as well but in that situation, you do not meet the mother and the mother looses all rights to see their child until a certain age when the child can inquire about their past after age 18 I believe. Open adoptions tend to be a little easier and sometimes faster and you still have the option of not having the mother be a part of your new child's life with you, but the mother does have the final say on who actually gets to adopt their child. In open adoptions, the mother interviews the possible parent(s) and makes their decision based on what they want for their unborn child.

I'd hate to be in your situation. I couldn't imagine how hard it must be to have to face these decisions and facts from the doctors. The feeling that something that holds such a dear future is getting taken away is so hard to face. It may not be what makes you a woman, but it is an important part of a woman's life. You are definitely not a lesser person, and nor are you not complete. I'm sure your bf will support you and love you with or without that part. Besides, it's not your 'part' he fell for, it's you!
 
Thanks guys and I am sure you are right about my boyfriend. Just send up prayers for me I go to the Dr for a ultersound on my overies and to let everyone know it is to see about taking my overies out I have already had the rest taken.
 
Well it seems my right overy is ok. But they are now sending me to get a CAT scan done beause they could not even view my left overy. That makes me a little worried but I just thought I would give you all a update. And I guess you all know how LeeHype is doing not sure myself but that he is working hard and that he comes on here to talk to you all. Well I will keep you all informed.

THANKS GUYS FOR EVERYTING!!!
 
Well good luck. My best friend/roommate had a full hysterectomy, and she's flipping out they can't get her hormones balanced. Nothing like coming in for dinner and hearing her scream like a fucking banshee for no logical or illogical reason. I feel bad for her hubby, he gets the brunt of it and hasn't had sex with his wife since she had the hysterectomy--last October.

While I agree with Bitch that you can definetly adopt and you don't HAVE to do foster care, there are lots of kids that are called "unadoptable" because of race, medical problems, mental problems, who live in state controlled homes with different people all the time, like being in daycare your whole life. Maybe the cosmos is giving you an opportunity to help these kids, once you get your medical problems straightened out (you have to take care of yourself before you can take care of someone else). Teenage girls and boys suffering from abuse and negligent drug addict parents need the most help right now IMO in America to curb them from going the same route.

I did foster care for about three years with some teenage girls, and I have to say it was a very enriching experience and I think I gave the two girls I took care of some life long hope and empowerment and self esteem. I can't do foster care right now because of monetary problems since my divorce (got the house/land repoe'd) and even six years later its hard to get that back, but if the good Lord permits it I will be doing that again. One of my foster kids, Kinsey, now runs her own bakery in Eugene and I talk to her a few times a year and she is doing really good. I haven't heard from the other girl but I like to hope and pray she's doing good too.
 
Why thank you I know I will be ok and I know I have people on here I can lean on if I needed it but it would be great to find out what my boyfriend has to say about all of it and just to lean on but I have not been able to get a hold of him for a few days I just need to be able to lean on him. I miss him so much.
 
Quite you!!



I'm not bothered about no kids. My Mom blessed me with the curse "I hope you have kids, AND THEY ARE JUST LIKE YOU!!!"

Things work out for a reason. It only seems bad because your worried. Your a woman. Wile I wouldn't put it past Med fucking something like that up, I doupt this will be an issue.

There are a great deal of other options out there if the news gets that bad. Just focus on the task at had and remember that there is someone whos loves you greatly.
 
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