Ladies: Is it "manliness" or "confidence" that attracts you?

[IrishGuitar70]

I recently read an article on how to improve you chances with women and the author spoke about the need to not necessarily be "nice" but to be more of a "man". He spoke about how too many "nice guys" were compaining about the girl not calling or emailing them back after the first date. He said the key is to be a MAN and not a nice guy necessarily. He wasn't saying that a guy should be a jerk to a woman on the first date but he needs to not be in a "weak mode" when meeting her. He also stated that the real attractive ladies (8's,9's and 10's) will not at all be attracted to the sensitive, nice guy. He restated the real key to getting their attention: BEING A REAL MAN.

Ladies - Do you think you are really looking for a guy that takes care of you and you feel safe with or a guy who is nice? Would a guy who is into football and those manly things attract you more than the guy who is sensitive and maybe plays guitar and has a sense of humor?

Let me know your thoughts and maybe in the process you can help thousands of us average looking, sensitive men in our efforts to find the woman of our dreams.

 

[Ok...]

I have to agree with this article, but not how you put it in your last few paragraphs... The football "apes" as I call them, are not someone I am attracted to for a relationship. Not even for just the one nighter... I have to like the guy on some level, and the apes tend to act like they are gifts to women, and usually don't "perform" ahem, well.

But I would say that I like it when a guy "takes charge" on a date, and can make a decision. That to me personally is huge. For example, I love that he opens doors for me, is polite to me, touches the small of my back etc. But if he keeps asking me over n over what restaurant do you want to go to? That gets on my nerves. Just pick one dangit! I'm hungry, I will find something to eat, ok??? I have had a long day and do everything for myself; so when a guy takes a few minutes to say plan a dinner out, I am happy that he took charge to do so. Maybe just ask me what food I like/ dislike to be polite, but then make a decision and take it from there. Have a plan for afterwards. A walk on the promenade, cup of coffe at your fave place, maybe even a movie. But not "what do you want to do now?' That makes me feel like I am out with a child, who is out for the night. Sounds silly I know, but the explanation for this, is that if he can make simple decisions now, he can make larger decisions as a couple, in the future.. Make sense? Also, we love men who are Irish. Or play guitar. Or play IrishGuitar... lol!