Yep, I agree completely with Justoneofus and Pepper. Take it easy! You can't rush your recovery!
Our church brought us three dinners a week for three full months. With the leftovers from the dinners they brought us, we had enough for just about the whole week. I didn't cook at all for those three months, then just very simple things for another few months (hot dogs, frozen fish, pizza, etc.). I wasn't being lazy, I simply had no strength or energy to do it. I did have a lot of levels done, but even after reading here on the board and feeling like I was ready for the surgery, in retrospect, it was a lot harder than I thought it would be. It took me a long time to recognize that, as I was trying hard to stay positive, which was definitely the best way to be. When I looked in the mirror, I felt like I had aged. I looked so worn and tired, and felt that way, too. I'm a little over a year and a half post op, and I'm finally feeling like myself again. I look in the mirror and I see my old self. I still need to be careful not to overdo it, but I think I can say I've traveled the road.
I don't say any of this to discourage you, but rather in hopes that you'll not be so hard on yourself or expect too much too quickly. Maybe you can print out this thread and show it to your husband, or maybe he can go with you to one of your appointments, where you can make sure you talk to your doctor about how much you should or shouldn't be doing, or at least, that it's normal to still be tired and needing some pain meRAB.
You're still very early on in your recovery. It's great to try to do something each day. It's good for you mentally, and it's good for your family. But don't beat yourself up if you have days when you just can't muster it up. It's okay to let the house slide a bit. There's always tomorrow. You'll catch it back up. You'll recover faster if you let yourself get the rest your body neeRAB. It's had a trauma, and it neeRAB time and rest to heal.
One day at a time, okay?
Take care,
Emily