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gyrotaco
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I am currently living with a Korean man. It is very difficult for me to interpret his behavior. While he seems incredibly kind and polite to my face, he also does things that undermine me and that a normal flatmate shouldn't do. For instance, if we see each other he says hello, asks how I am, and is generally showing an attitude of deference. However, there are a few things that he does which seem really rude.
First, he used my bathroom and not his without asking, and left the toilet clogged. He didn't tell me about it, or apologize, or unclog it. So I had to. Similarly, he had hoped that the housemates in this house shared food, so he asked if that was the case. After I told him that we all buy our own food, he just asked someone else that also lives here.
Second, he seems to wait for me to leave the house and then leaves at the same time. It feels like he is waiting for me to leave and leaving at the same time in order to see me.
Third, his politeness is tinged with an odd shyness. Like he's afraid to talk to me. But he doesn't make an effort to have more conversation than just small talk. His nervousness makes him appear to have a crush on me. Why else would he be so nervous?
So basically my question is, is there something I am misunderstanding about Korean culture, or is my housemate just an odd person regardless of his country of origin.
Thank you SOO much for responses.
First, he used my bathroom and not his without asking, and left the toilet clogged. He didn't tell me about it, or apologize, or unclog it. So I had to. Similarly, he had hoped that the housemates in this house shared food, so he asked if that was the case. After I told him that we all buy our own food, he just asked someone else that also lives here.
Second, he seems to wait for me to leave the house and then leaves at the same time. It feels like he is waiting for me to leave and leaving at the same time in order to see me.
Third, his politeness is tinged with an odd shyness. Like he's afraid to talk to me. But he doesn't make an effort to have more conversation than just small talk. His nervousness makes him appear to have a crush on me. Why else would he be so nervous?
So basically my question is, is there something I am misunderstanding about Korean culture, or is my housemate just an odd person regardless of his country of origin.
Thank you SOO much for responses.