buddy_holly_1959
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For privacy’s sake, names have been changed,
Samantha: My girl, who live 2 hours away at college, bi
Steve: My guy friend lives 4+ hours away, going to be with him and a few others for new years, bi.
Me: Bi
I’m with Samantha, and it's a really strong relationship, and I love her... and the day after me and Samantha set our status on facebook to in a relationship, I got a message from Steve saying he just got dumped, and he wanted me... and I’ve been getting messages from him every few days with "<3 I miss you". the thing is, I held out for my first kiss with a girl, and I can now quite proudly say it was with my best friend (Samantha), when we were alone on a camping trip... my dilemma is: if the opportunity arises for something to happen between me and Steve when I’m with him at new years, (kiss, etc) I wouldn’t resist, because I’d be quite happy to say Steve was my first guy kiss.. My conflict is if it’s cheating if it’s with a guy. Kind of like the chick and a chick thing... Samantha knows I love her, and she knows I’m a very impulsive person, and she accepts that... she knows I have my obsessions and crushes, and we play off them. I’ve known Samantha for about 5 years now; we were part of the same friend circle in high school. One of my friends I’ve made since I started college is gay, and he's a total horndog, and keeps coming on to me, but I keep turning him down, because it makes me puke to think I’d have to say he was my first anything... and I do like Steve, and had I lived close we would of started something a long time ago (we live 5 hours away). I've known Steve since 2005, and it's only been in the past year and a bit that there's been anything between us. When I was with him in May, we held hands while we walked through a mall. We were with a few other friends, so we played it up as harmless fun, but there was something there. I came out to the world as bi the end of June, and I haven’t seen him since that day in May, and now that he knows I’m bi, he's been stepping up his tactics. I plan to party with him and a few others on new years, and I don't know how either of us will react. I'm not ruling anything out, as I only get to see him a few times a year, and it's not worth hesitating, because I don't know when I’ll see him again.
(As I was writing this, I got another message from Steve)
Sorry if this seems chopped up and hard to follow, because it was copy and pasted from a chat I was having on MSN, and I got less than useful advice.
Before you go off on me, ask questions, I'll gladly answer them, and don't want this to become a flame war.
Samantha: My girl, who live 2 hours away at college, bi
Steve: My guy friend lives 4+ hours away, going to be with him and a few others for new years, bi.
Me: Bi
I’m with Samantha, and it's a really strong relationship, and I love her... and the day after me and Samantha set our status on facebook to in a relationship, I got a message from Steve saying he just got dumped, and he wanted me... and I’ve been getting messages from him every few days with "<3 I miss you". the thing is, I held out for my first kiss with a girl, and I can now quite proudly say it was with my best friend (Samantha), when we were alone on a camping trip... my dilemma is: if the opportunity arises for something to happen between me and Steve when I’m with him at new years, (kiss, etc) I wouldn’t resist, because I’d be quite happy to say Steve was my first guy kiss.. My conflict is if it’s cheating if it’s with a guy. Kind of like the chick and a chick thing... Samantha knows I love her, and she knows I’m a very impulsive person, and she accepts that... she knows I have my obsessions and crushes, and we play off them. I’ve known Samantha for about 5 years now; we were part of the same friend circle in high school. One of my friends I’ve made since I started college is gay, and he's a total horndog, and keeps coming on to me, but I keep turning him down, because it makes me puke to think I’d have to say he was my first anything... and I do like Steve, and had I lived close we would of started something a long time ago (we live 5 hours away). I've known Steve since 2005, and it's only been in the past year and a bit that there's been anything between us. When I was with him in May, we held hands while we walked through a mall. We were with a few other friends, so we played it up as harmless fun, but there was something there. I came out to the world as bi the end of June, and I haven’t seen him since that day in May, and now that he knows I’m bi, he's been stepping up his tactics. I plan to party with him and a few others on new years, and I don't know how either of us will react. I'm not ruling anything out, as I only get to see him a few times a year, and it's not worth hesitating, because I don't know when I’ll see him again.
(As I was writing this, I got another message from Steve)
Sorry if this seems chopped up and hard to follow, because it was copy and pasted from a chat I was having on MSN, and I got less than useful advice.
Before you go off on me, ask questions, I'll gladly answer them, and don't want this to become a flame war.