Just wondering if anyone else had unusual mood swings up to a year after having a baby?

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sahmsep2009

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I have a one year old baby boy. During my pregnancy, I had a really horrible situation going on in my life and I was pretty stressed a lot of the time. This sometimes resulted in hysterical tears when something bad happened, or a violent temper when a little thing set me off. I put a lot of it down to pregnancy hormones and the bad stuff that was going on. I did take a lot of it out on my husband though and I think he got pretty fed up! Our relationship is not as caring and loving as it used to be.

Since having the baby, things have calmed down, but I've found I sometimes still have a violent temper over little things and I get so angry at my husband. Every now and then, I have moments where I feel like I just can't stand being married anymore! I'm not sure why this has happened. I thought it might be hormones still after having the baby, or it might be sleep deprivation since bubs still does not sleep through the night.

Anyway, apart from the anger, lately I've been feeling things that a more like depression - like no one likes me and I'm a boring and not very nice person - especially because I am horrible to my husband and have been for the past year and half! I just wonder why I keep having these mood swings - one moment I'll be happy, then a tiny little thing happens and I'm crying or shaking with rage. I never used to be like this - what is going on? Is it post-pregnancy hormones? Sleep deprivation? Am I going bonkers? I want the old me back!!

Has anyone else had something similar?? Will it go away by itself?
 
i think the best thing to do is speak to your doctor you could have post-natal depression, i would imagine your hormones should be settled down after a year, i just had a baby 7 weeks ago & i let things get to me too easy but im puting this down to my hormones & hoping its going to settle down

but definatley go to your doctor & be 100% honest with him/her on how your feeling

good luck :)
 
I have those days too every now and again. My son is 13 months old and dad lost his job so he gets to play the role of the SAHD which makes my blood boil. I get very angry at him too because he is lazy and doesn't do much with our son. I have had dreams where we have gotten divorced and everything else. I find that the week before my period starts is when my anger and depression flare up and everything bothers me. I have thought about going to speak with a counselor about my issues but i have been down that route before and it's a complete waste of money in my opinion. If you can sit down with your husband and tell him exactly what you are feeling and why you feel the way you do WITHOUT HIM INTERUPPTING YOU OR ARGUING, then you may find that things will get better between you two. Advice on "finding the old you"......there's not really much you can do unless you have a close friend or two to go out with once in a while. You are a mom/wife now and you play a totally new role in life. You can find ways to make yourself happy again by finding new "mommy" friends, taking classes (exercise or crafts etc), or even just taking a day to yourself. You didn't mention if you work or stayed at home, but I will assume you stay at home....and that alone can drive you crazy (it is for my hubby). It will eventually go away, but you need to get the old issues off of your mind once and for all...or else they will keep coming back.
 
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