Just ranting about my problems. Feel free to read and share your problems too?

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So I have this problem where when I am attracted to a guy, I tend to change myself for him, like so that he likes me better and stuff. I heard a lot of girls have this but I think my case is a lot worse because when I change myself, these changes stay with me after a while (even after I've stopped liking a certain guy) and I end up so use to them that it becomes part of me and I don't feel like I'm "not being myself" anymore. Like ok, so awhile ago I entered high school, and I used to be this Innocent little girly-girl who liked to hang out with my bffs and what not. So I'm at high school, and after half the school year goes by I meet this guy that I've only seen in the hallways, but I didn't find him that attractive before, like I thought he was cute, but he was obviously not my type. So I meet this guy, and we probably have nothing in common, but I somehow slowly start liking him. And then it kept getting worse because I started getting obsessed with him and like it was madness, I am so ashamed of this story. It was probably the most I've ever loved a guy, legit. So I started changing myself like, a lot. My clothes started getting in darker colours instead of pink. I started using eyeliner, I even changed my taste in music. Music that I absolutely hated before, now I loved. Because I loved this guy so much. Now, let's say a few years have passed and I regret liking him now and stuff, because now I found out that he really isn't the guy for me, but I don't regret making those changes for some reason. All those things that I made change to are now a part of me and who I am, and I wouldn't go back to being "girly" ever again. I keep liking new guys though, and I keep making changes, smaller ones then in the case that I just wrote about, but they're still changes. And I'm not being myself, I guess. But then the problem is that technically I am being myself because when I make these changes for these guys, they instantly become a part of me, like it's so easy for me to make them. That's the problem here, that I can change for someone so easily, it's not difficult for me, that's what I'm saying. But I'm always saying to people that I want a guy to like me for who I am and not someone I'm not. I don't really know what to do, this is kind of embaracing. Feel free to share your opinion or rant about your love life here too, I'll read.
 
everybody changes as they grow up, could be because of a guy, friends, work, new fashion anything its all ok. i use to be a stay at home, clingy, hate smoking, tom boy.. then i met new people and now im turning gurly (not to OTT jst a lil makeup n women jackets) im never at home and i smoke.. its all apart of life and makes you into the person you are today
 
everybody changes as they grow up, could be because of a guy, friends, work, new fashion anything its all ok. i use to be a stay at home, clingy, hate smoking, tom boy.. then i met new people and now im turning gurly (not to OTT jst a lil makeup n women jackets) im never at home and i smoke.. its all apart of life and makes you into the person you are today
 
it will be ok. your just changing your style a lot. one day you will find that one style you like best and you will stick to it. the day will come. don't worry.
 
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