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Imadad

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I don't want to sound like a big " I need a girlfriend Im ugly and have no friends" thing. I just got the weirdest feeling over the week. I feel so empty, I work so hard for myself and its getting me no where. I strive to impress people and I just don't feel accomplished. I would love a girlfriend but I have the hardest time liking girls. I don't want some bitch to screw me over for no reason, but I dont want to be single.


Sorry for this boring ass rant. but I had to let someone know.
 
You always have freinds, but if you feel like you don't have any freinds. You need to look in diffrent places to find diffrent kind of freinds. You are liked as a freind to many people on this thread. I know what you feel like, but you just need to look around. For the girlfreind problem all I have to say is, don't be desprate my girlfreind came to me and asked me out. You just need patience everything will clear up. My life sucks today too, but I had fun on here I let everything out of my mind. Just have fun on here for a bit and let your mind flow everything away. I hope you feel better after what you just read, and one day you will find that special girl/woman.
 
Chad, i know how you feel. Honestly, the first big step is being able to feel 'complete' or 'full' when you're alone. Once you don't feel like you need to have someone there to keep away the empty feeling, you start to attract people. Friends, lovers, whatever. It will also be harder for people to screw you over because they can only take that which you give them.

I can't remember who said it, but "only one who truly loves themselves, can truly love another"
 
You know, Chad, I've seen a time or two where you went beyond what was expected, and acted as a true, supportive friend to someone you cared about. Don't know if you let that side of you be seen by your current circle of friends.

Also, don't know if you are in high school or college. If in high school, don't try to rush the girlfriend thing. As nice as they seem, most "romances" at that stage (not all, admittedly) are aimed at conquest, not love or even liking. The best thing that can be said about them are they provide practice and it's a good time to learn what not to do.

Try to take the time to get out and experience new things - a club, or a museum, or the SCA, or whatever might interest you. Lots of new folks there, and some may be mature enough to understand and appreciate you.
 
Meh, I don't even care anymore. I realized how dumb relationships were awhile ago. I've turned my back to it all and I like being single. I guess most people aren't like me though...
 
its a true quote, but I am not a self hating kinda guy. I am a sad dude with no one to turn to and let my worries go. If it were the presence of a person, a girlfriend, a counselor or anything I would feel better. I feel like I need someone to just hold and think about life for a bit.


A good hug oughta do it, a nice long hug.
 
"We all live in suspense,
from day to day,
from hour to hour;
in other words,
we are the hero
of our own story." Mary McCarthy

:hug2:
 
I'm there with ya on that one. I have the same feelings a lot of the time. but like BDM said, I just come on here and let things flow. and like Tostig said just accept that you can be full without a friend or other type of relationship and then all of the sudden you will notice the possiblities that lay right in front of you. or something like that.

Another thing is, when you are able to get out and see the world on your own, you will be able to meet new people constantly. Maybe it isn't that you are alone, but that you don't have much interest in the people around you or they don't have much in you. Either way, with time comes great things.
 
Wow. That's deep, and at the same time, exactly how I feel. Seriously, you can't sit there and feel sorry for yourself. So what do you do? You go out and try to pick up people, when they reject you, you feel less and less, until you can't feel any emptier inside. Sometimes you'll look for different kinds of people, maybe to hope that they'll be the kind for you. Or the kind who likes you. Or the kind you like in the long run.

See, the problem with me is I'm cool. According to my friends, I'm cool, I'm fun to be around, and all that jazz. Hell, I can talk to girls like no other, and have nice conversations with them. However, if that conversation ever crosses over into the, "I like you, we should go out" section, I start to mumble, my words become stuttered or mispronounced, and I turn into something, someone, else. I'm not who I usually am anymore, and it pisses me off to no end. Those girls have no idea who I really am at all. I feel like I'm trapped inside some sort of cage, begging to be freed. But to no avail. If only they did, I'd be much happier than I am now.
 
Hey man trust me I know what you mean its been awhile since I even had anyone. The only thing to do is just go out and give it a shot. I dont know how old you are but if of age just go to a bar and look eventually you will get bored (or drunk enough) and you will go over there.

Good luck man dont end up like me. Lol
 
Alone and lonely, or Married and bored.

Take your pick.

10 Advantages of a long term girlfriend / spouse:

1. There's always someone there to tell you what you did wrong
2. If you do make other friends, you have to ask "mom" to go out
3. You don't have to worry about your money, you wont have any
4. Everything she liked about you in the beginning becomes something for her to "fix" as the relationship progresses
5. It's always exciting because you never know what you're in trouble for
6. Sex, while plentiful at first, becomes a "as needed" proposition.
7. Endless hours of her complaining about things you can't remember later
8. Feeling secure in who you are, because her job is to tear it down into something "better"
9. She can remember things you've done wrong for many years, just ask
10. Having kids will make your life complete. (Your fate is sealed completely)
 
You know how it goes.

Before your married you get pussy. After your married, you get vagina.

Thus concludes a post from random man, fuck you random_ranter.
 
Chad, I know how it can make you feel that you will never meet someone that will take care/care for you, or what not, Everyone needs human contact once in awhile, It's nature.

But, you're 15, and I personally think it will pick up in a few years time, but enjoy your childhood, you'll have PLENTY of years when you have girls, and then girl troubles, so I wouldn't rush it so fast right now. Have fun for awhile, just being you, and being with your friends, you'll regret it if you don't.

You'll be alright.
 
dont wory man,i know how you feel, im the same way, and your only 15, you have time ^^ it gets easier later on. as for the talking to girls thing, dont wory about it they are just people... and dont do what my bf did and wait 7 years to make your move, just go for it, i mean really, what do u have to loose? so cheer up:D
 
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