Just Fuck Off!

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Candacy M

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So I'm practically dating this chick named Mariah, who's best friend is my ex...kind of awkward I must say but I'm still "friends" with my ex so it's not like we hate each other.

Last night I got a text message from my ex(she was always into that crap)saying that what I was doing was wrong and that I'm not allowed to date her friends. That I am stupid and naive and that what I'm doing is awful and now I won't talk to her anymore.

wtf?! Ok she is my ex, but she's still my friend. It's not like I hate her guts. And even if me and mariah were to date and hang out with marissa(my ex) in the future, yes it would be awkward but I can deal with it. God damn she shouldn't have any say in my life anymore! She's my fucking ex! I respect that she cares but at the same time I'm so pissed off that she has the audacity so say, "You can't date my friends." Too late bitch! I'm already dating her. And I hadn't even done anything wrong to Marissa(the ex, mind you)and haven't said jack shit to her except "happy birthday"(which was yesterday). So now she thinks that she can control who I like.

She concluded the argument with "I'm right about this and you know it and you can never change it. You wouldn't even know her if it wasn't for me, asshole."

Fuck off. Just shut your fucking mouth and move the fuck out of my life. I don't give a rats ass what you have to say since now its nothing positive, its always "I'm right, you're wrong, and I am negative 90% of the time."
 
It's a difficult situation to be in but in the end she cannot control who you like and don't like. I assume you didn't cheat on your ex with this person so you have been honest with her. You may have gotten to know this girl without your ex's involvment you just don't know that. Eitherway, you have a right to date who you please. What makes this difficult is that your ex is not over you obviously. She is gogin to have a hard time seeing you happy with someone else....especially a friend of hers. You might want to concider takign that relationship slower and don't hang out with both of them at the same time until she gets used to the idea. Since she's your friend, talk to her. Find out what's really bothering her and tell her how you feel about her friend. She needs to be reasured you aren't dating her friend to get back at her but you truly like this girl. You don't feel it's fair that she hold it against you adn wish you not to pursue someone you really like.

It's going to take time. Hearts don't heal fast especially if the relationship was a godo one at one point. But liek I said, you are allowed to date whomever you like. But you may have to give up your friend if she is unwilling to wish you happiness with anyone. She does not own you. It woudl be nice of you not to date her friends but if that's where your heart is going then that is where you are going to go.
 
From the sound of it, I think your ex might be jealous. Therefore is looking for an excuse to keep you away from your current girlfriend. I think you should just tell her to back off if shes going to act like that. Because you were cool with her until she started doing this stuff, right? I think she's just looking for a reason to seperate you two, and that if she wasn't your current girlfriends friend, she wouldn't have one.

That's just my outlook on it.
 
You are all right for the most part. I was faithful with my ex the entire time we were dating and I never EVER considered cheating on her with anyone. I would love to know what is really bothering her but our conversation ended with me(remaining desperately positive)telling her that I was done talking to her about it, it is my life not hers, and that I can like who I want and she cannot change it. She texted me back and told me to fuck off.

I really don't understand what gives her the audacity to involve herself between me and mariah...she can get over herself. She said she was done with me, didn't want to be involved anymore(she broke up with me) and that it was over. So taking that headnote, I pondered myself for a while, waht I wanted, and then befriended Mariah because she cheered me up. We became friends, and didn't even ponder dating until 4 weeks after me and marissa broke up.

I just can't believe she would lash out at me like this.
 
Girls are bitches, not all but some! She may be jealous, or is being really possessive over her friend, like "she's mine, not yours." The only way you can get an answer is to really ask her & by the way you say it... Im assuming she wouldn't really give you a straight answer other than "fuck off"

Sorry to hear about this :( Glad to see your not letting her control you :)
 
Don't let it get to you. If Marissa is giving you a hard time but you and Mariah are secure with your feelings, then just do your best to ignore Marissa. She's bitter. She hasn't healed yet no matter what she says. But if it's time for you to move on, she'll learn to deal eventually. You just can't expect to be friends with her at this point. The friendship is in her court now. If she wants to be friends then she'll have to accept that you've moved on and it just happens to be her friend that you have moved on with. She'll learn that once she broke off the relationship with you, she no longer has a say in your future relations. So just move on adn don't let her bother you. Let her spat and kick and gripe and rage on, but you need to move on adn work on your current relationship.

Had you moved on to someone else, you jsut don't know if she'd react any different. Lets say you found someone more pretty than she is, she'd gripe about that. Or maybe you found someone that had a talent that she doesn't liek singing or dancing, or maybe she's a gymnast, your ex might find somethign to complain about. It all comes down to jealousy and spite. She'll get over this eventually.

I say....good luck with Mariah! Sounds like you are happier with her.
 
Well the only problem I have is that Mariah seems to go through many people and then decides that she doesn't like them...so basically she fucks a lot of people over...not on purpose really...she just never knows what she wants.

Marissa has now changed her argument to the fact that she is going to soon fuck me over and that I am being naive. But if I take a good look back at all the people she has tried to date, each one is just so obscure and reserved I can understand why she couldn't get through to them in the first place.

It's just bullshit right now...if Mariah does screw me over then fine, I won't be all that hurt about it. I've got my friends here, and its not like I'm going to be crushed. It's fuckin high school, not the apocalypse. Marissa finally sent me a message today saying, "Mariah.does.not.like.you." When I asked for proof, she said it was in "discussion." So I dunno I think they are merely hypothesizing.

If things don't work it would be laughable if Marissa thought I would come back to her and try to be friends. You are right, the ball is in her court. But she's been such a bitch to me lately and she could have just gone out and said, "I don't want you getting hurt" instead of "Fuck you. You can't date my friends." The two messages are completely different. I dunno if trying to even talk to her is worth it. I'm just fed up with that entire circle of people right now and it's really fucking annoying how they all tend to gang up on either me or Mariah, when I haven't done anything wrong.

GAAH

fucking a

Where's the goddamn Tylenol?
 
Fuck ex girlfriends, I don't like being much friends with them after its all over. Too much bullshit comes from that if you ask me. Not always, but for the most part. I say you keep going out with this woman, give your ex the middle finger. Not exactly like that, but you understand where I'm coming from.
 
I try to put myself in the other shoes in this situation. Here is how I would feel. I would feel that this would cause me to lose 2 friends, my ex and the girlfriend he is now dating. I didn't check to see how old you are, but trust me, friendships can last a life time don't screw that up unless this new girl is a lifetime love. Other than that, how would you feel if your ex started dating your close friend? Now you stand to lose two friends? Just think about where she is coming from.
 
Well if my ex started dating one of my close friends, I would be sure to warn them of...well a lot of things about her that I'm not going to go into, but I'm not going to tell my ex to fuck off from my friend...I think that since she broke up with me she can pursue who she wants and I don't have the right to interfere. I wouldn't be pissed off at my friend either, I'd just let him know what he should be careful of and that he needs to be sure of what he wants before continuing.

Basically what she has warned me of, minus the multiple "fuck you's" and the continuous insulting of me. Oh yeah, and I wouldn't verbally punch her in the face for so much as looking at one of my friends like she did me.
 
Hmmm... see this is where being anti-social really has an advantage. See, a woman has to really work deep and hard (not like that), to get me to think they might be worth my time. I'm a busy man and I don't need my time wasted. So by the time they've worked at it long enough (like my current fiancee {almost a year strong}), I know I've got something sure, and not some head-tripping, game playing, psycho-hose-beast like you're currently describing.
 
I wish I could be antisocial like that. Unfortunately, I am quite the extrovert and I can't help but thinking even my acquaintances are worth my time. I just wish I could find someone who would think me worth their time, or at least respect that I use my time, not waste it upon them.
 
Your ex sounds like a complete mega bitch. Either way if you go out with Mariah, you should still say " Fuck you Marissa we are broken up, I can do what I want." and if you dont go out with Mariah, there are other girls...
Like you said, It's only highschool.
 
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