i've apologized for a mistake i made,so why won't he contact me to discuss the issues?

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it's a long story but will try to make it brief as possible....i'm an aries woman and i met this gemini man about a yr ago..we really hit if off,and have so many things in common.we also both love to talk,and i'm truly amazed by his intellect...anyway we dated for about 3 mnths when he changed.his contact with me lessened dramatically and after 2 weeks of this i asked what was going on..his response was that he liked me lots but was scared to tell me he wanted to end it...i couldn't get a better response then that..i was in total shock..no indication whatsoever of any problems existing....okay,it ended,we stayed in contact through email for a while then we stopped...1 month ago, i decided just to send an email to see how he was..he responded with great excitement and wanted to "hang out"..i asked him to explain what he meant..his response as friends..he has missed my company and the other things we shared..this confused me and sent me mixed signals.i decided to meet him only for coffee and as friends.we met and before i could ask how he was he was chatting my ears off!!..anyway, we talked and he had said something rather strange to me..."i just have to have you in my world whether or not we work out..i just can't not have you in it".we decided to date but go slowly..again it was great,absolutely wonderful!..his parents were happy to see us together again and his mom even made the comment i fit into their family.
shortly after that again..the contact and responses lessened..i was so afraid of a replay of events last yr so i ended it but told him via email i still had strong feelings for him and my fears.by the way, he much preferred emails, which i don't understand either...i also sent a more negative diplomatic email to him which i regretted later..i sent an email of apology and asked if we could discuss the issues..that i should have thought things through more thoroughly before sending all those emails...he did email me to say he deleted them at my request and not to worry no fault found..well i'm not that dumb...he read them..i have tried to contact him by phone and email but for sure he is avoiding me and won't even discuss it...i'm thinking i blew it and there is nothing i can do to salvage it..but i don't understand,if he's that interested,why won't he at least contact me to discuss it or get angry with me or something..was he not interested in the first place?..i am so confused.
 
He probably feel inadequate since you dumped him and wants nothing to do with the supposed "source" of his inadequacy, and he won't get "angry" with you because he's already to pissed at himself.

Just give him a couple days to cool off, and then confront him in person (e-mail or phone would work to, but it wouldn't be nearly as effective) expressing your feelings for him.
 
Okay, even though you said sorry. Words still hurt.
So, all you can do is just give him his space and time.
Give him a little time and just wait paitently.
He will give you a call.
True love will always find a way.
 
It sounds to me like he's scared of commitment.

Don't even bother wasting your time on him.
 
He is not that into you, and he is afraid of commitment. Please stop beating a dead horse and move on. You deserve someone that feels as strongly for you as you do them. Delete him off your contact list. Go out and find some friends, and move on.
 
Its over honey! Leave him alone! Save your pride and move on before you embarras yourself. You shouldn't have to work that hard!
 
Because sometimes guys don't like talking about the issues they just like to end it.

You haven't done anything wrong.

Don't contact him anymore. He is the one with issues. Just tell yourself that.

If he wants you he will contact you.
 
move on,, i know its hard but now ur blind and cant see the situation truely,, u have to cut all ties with him,, try to relax without thinking of him for a month,, its a big world ,, for sure there is someone out there for u who is waiting for someone as wonderful as u to pass by ,, so u should open ur eyes and dont miss those chances around u,, u deserve more
 
Listen Sweetheart. You don't need an ass like that in your life. My sister went through the same exact things and in the end he married some other woman. He is probably playing you and you don't need that. After this last time, tell him to not contact you anymore and then move on. Don't feel like you need to apologize to anyone. You did nothing wrong. If you feel like you don't want it to end right now that at most, just talk to him and ask what the problem is and ask why he is leading you on. Take it from there. But don't let him tell you that he wants to get back with you AGAIN, you'll be hurt even more then the first two time and it'll hurt more again and again. Hope this helped.
 
he's still got feelings for you. the reason he likes emails better is cause he can think about things before he says them and he might be nervous around you cause he probably still has feelings for you. i'm sure he will forgive your for those emails you wanted him to delete, if he really has feelings for you then nothin is gonna keep him away. what you can do is talk to him. or email him. talk about the things you miss about your relationship with him. if a girl did that to me i'd be crawlin back to her
 
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