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So there comes this point when you realize that you are no longer the center of your childrens lives. Its just me and CL this weekend, and I would enjoy that except for this wierd longing in my heart that says I miss my kids.

Im sad and old and nobody needs me anymore. Not like they used to anyways. Now, they are all way to independant...and none of them except our oldest is really a teenager yet.

I miss the baby years.
 
I went through this when my daughter was 8. Then we finally had my son and now my youngest daughter who will be 2 in August. I know it's going to depress me when they all hit that age. I won't be able to have any more then and that's when I will probably become the most depressed. :sad:

I feel for you hun. :happysad:
 
Oh lordy.

Sharon and I just BAWLED on our daughter's 18th birthday (April 30th). I thought we'd both be delirious with joy for FINALLY getting ONE of them to 18. Boop...wrong answer. She had made a PowerPoint presentation for class. It was an assignment. It went back through her entire life and had all these pictures and stuff from vacations and birthdays and sports and debate tournaments and her first Homecoming and all kinds of stuff. We bawled like little bitty babies!!

Then she came over on her last day of school (she's getting an apartment now with a friend), and she sat on my lap and cried. Me and Shar and her talked about how she was feeling. She said she felt excited, happy, scared, nervous, and free. She felt all of those things a LOT. And she said....I still NEED you guys.

THAT, DG, is something to remember. No matter how independent and "old" our "babies" get....they will always need us. Their needs just change. We're not being worked out of their lives.

Just remember to enjoy ALL the different stages of their lives. Each one has it's joys and rewards, and it's sorrows. But each part is special and irreplaceable. Being a mom is a wonderful thing. :)
 
Even though I live 1200 miles away from home, I still miss and call my mom. Wile I don't have kids, I know she feels the same way twords me that you do for your kids. She said something like "I spent the greater part of my life raising you, and now you don't need me any more." She wasn't compleatly right, I still need her, and your kids will still need you. But now would be a great time to kinda get used to them not beeing around, maby someday, one of them might up and join the service at some random time.
 
"The best way to keep children home is to make the home atmosphere pleasant--and let the air out of the tires." Dorothy Parker

I know this won't help right now, but I got closer to my mom after growing up a bit. When young, she was my mom - the rule giver, the food provider, the confidence builder, the constant. As an adult, she became a fantastically amusing, witty, intelligent friend, while remaining the confidence builder, the moral supporter, the one constant in a life of change. I need and love her today as much as I did growing up, but for different reasons.
 
My mom could definetly relate with you. She had 10 kids, and she always tells me should have us over again, because she liked babies.

Is it like baby withdrawal?
 
Yes its baby withdrawl.

babies never talk back.
They just want to love on you and cuddle with you and look at you adoringly. they never invite thier slobby fucking friends over and eat all your fruit and drink all your fruit2o. They don't listen to hip hop. and most of all, they don't use the phone.

Actually, my daughter came home early. She said, "Hi mom, love you" and got on the telephone.

Then she turned on the hip hop station on the satellite.

God, help us all.

Now she is eating my shredded wheat....

damn kids.

I buy them thier own cereal why do they have to eat mine?????????????
 
A wise woman once said (me) "Empty nest leads to fuller bank accounts"...LOL Seriously though, after this last birthday I have had these same feelings....Twin 13yr old boys and a 6 yr old little girl who is already hogging the phone and wanting to go spend the night out........I watch all those stupid shows on TLC "A Baby Story" and get all sad and weepy, the solution to this problem....I go to any restaurant and request to sit in the family section.......I then realize that all those shows I watch are just T.V....LOL.....I love my kids and dont ever want to see them go, I just want to see them grow and succeed and one day they will have kids of their own and their kids will go away and leave them old and lonely and that my friends, is called PAYBACK.....j/k.........

Now I miss my babies just cause Im at work.......thanks guys....:sad:
 
Oh, DG, don't smother them. They'll be like my cousins and leave home the second they can and then move thousands of miles away. (One is in northern Michigan and one is in souther Iowa. My aunt lives here in Minnesota) Just think though, within like 10 years you can be a grandma and have all the fun of a baby without all the extra work and being up every night. :D
 
I think what you are going through DG is that you no longer have to care about a person one on as you did your children. My mom liked having people depend on her, maybe you just miss having the dependance between you and your children?
 
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