Isn't it sad how there is no such thing anymore as waiting for sex until you're married?

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I guess it is just sad in my opinion that people don't believe in this anymore. It just makes society look like it has no values. And I think there's something extremely romantic about waiting for that one night where you can express your love to that one person you're going to hopefully spend the rest of your life with. Oh well. Times have changed. And in this case, not for the better.
Fine, we aren't technically allowed to get married in most places. But marriage is allowed in some places and besides that, you don't need a paper to tell you that you are married. It can be a special ceremony between you and the one you love. A promise to each other. That's all marriage is in my opinion. A promise to be loyal, faithful and above all, love that person.
Sorry, but sex isn't a car in my opinion.
I'm going to be turning 17. So marriage is way off in the future. And I'm not going to sit here and be a hypocrite and say that I'm not going to have sex before marriage. Because in today's society, that's practically impossible. But I am saying that it's kinda sad that this is happening.
 
I would not marry a woman I hadn't had sex with before the marriage. A healthy sex life is very important to a happy marriage, if we're not compatible in that area, the marriage will fail. It leaves the choice of infidelity, divorce or living in an unhappy marriage, none of which are desirable.
 
Why is that sad? Personally I'd rather spend my life with someone that I KNOW can rock my world rather than have a huge buildup that may well turn out to be...anticlimactic. (Pun intended.)

In lovemaking, as in anything else, practice makes perfect. This doesn't mean you should be stupid or promiscuous...but it also doesn't mean you should spend your whole life waiting for someone who, if he has the same idea, will be just as awkward about the whole thing as you are.
 
Anymore? Did people ever wait to have sex until they were married? I don't think i know anybody who waited.
 
Depends on your outlook. It's sad when you give in to pressure. I've been pressured several times. I'm personally waiting, BUT if it happens before, then it happens before. Whatever other people do in their sex lives is their own thing.
 
Well, i have never been a fan of "waiting". I think that sexual compatibility between a pair is a necessity for a happy relationship, and there is only one way to be able to tell that.
 
-shrugs- No, I don't think it's sad. I think there's too much hype over sex, if your having it or not. If not then why etc. It's just a biological function. Nothing more and nothing less. If I love someone and want to be with them, then I will. Paper or no paper.

I suppose I can see how it might romantic, but it's like if you really like chocolate why should you wait to eat it?

It's just like a physical expression of your love. You might not marry them- or even if you do, be with them forever, but still... you want to express you love them here and now, even if you are fated or 'the ones' for each other.

xD! Sex in the car is for whor-...*coughs* people who are dignity-challenged.

I agree with you on the thought of marriage. That it's just not just paper and you don't need it to be on paper or official to make you married.
 
It is sad!! It is interesting that AIDS is so prevalent. Those who are having sex with everything that moves are those who suffer. Unfortunately, it only takes 1 bad partner to get you sick for the rest of your life.

People should just read what the Bible says...sex ONLY when you are married. If EVERYONE followed that rule, AIDS would not exist!!!!
 
I really don't care. You don't love your spouse less because you've had sex with someone else before them.

Besides - just because someone has sex before marriage, that doesn't mean they don't have values! I certainly have values! I just don't value sitting around and waiting for ONE particular other. I don't want my future spouse to wait for me if there is someone else that they fancy right now. What need would I have? Life is best lived fully.
 
Or it could be a better thing as sex is a bit like riding a bike, you tend to get better at it the more you do it. Can anyone honestly tell me of the that the first time they had sex with someone who hadn't was great? Besides sex can still be an expression of love and be better for it, we just don't confine ourselves to only having one love throughout our lives anymore and maybe we're better for that too.
 
I don't think it's necessary to wait until you're married. People that do, fine. They can wait forever, but I don't want to wait forever. I'm 23, a virgin and I'm sick of it!

Sex isn't the most important thing but I want a boyfriend and I want to be near him and show him more affection than he knows what to do with.

I have a lot to give and pleasure is one of the biggies in my book. Like I said, if you wanna wait till marriage, then fine. But I won't.

And did you wait till you were married? Just curious.

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i'm still waiting...i'm 23 and proud of that fact...but i agree, it should be saved for that one special person...
 
No, I feel it is a good thing. We are more accepting of our own bodies and the desires we have. In the past you were stuck and not able to experience different things to see what works best for you.

Besides that we no longer are expected to be married with kids by age 18. So if you wait until your 30 to get married your missing out on an important part of life by waiting.
 
You do realize this is the LGBT section, and we're not allowed to marry?

And even if I were straight, I would never buy a car without taking a test drive.
 
well i think ppl should just do what makes them happy

im staying a virgin until marriage but thats cuz im not that interested in sex and im getting married by arranged marriage so if my husband finds out that i had sex with someone else even if it was only one person he'll divorce me cuz he'd think im a slut and a lot of times its ok for guys to lose their virginity but not for girls to which pisses me off

and which makes me even sadder is that i think im a lesbian so i dont even want to marry a guy
 
I'm a younger person, 18, and I thought it died out a long time ago.
It is just so hard these days to find a good person to get married to and then lose your v-card to. If you think about it, many people these days are starting their careers over getting married though. So if they go right from high school to college they're going to be I'd say 22 years old before graduating maybe a bit later. And then you they have to get a job and start making money, get a place and all that other stuff, that can take years. Making them 26 or so... waiting till you're 26 to even start really having a chance of getting to find a person to marry, often people wait longer than a year, I'd hope, before marrying someone they just met, that would make them 27. That is a long time to not have sex/
 
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