WishIwereEnglish
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I'm a girl, and do you think it will help or hurt me that i don't believe in marriage...
i decided this a few years ago that i would never get married, not that i don't want a long term, hopefully life long relationship, but i never want to get legally married.
i view marriage as an ancient, religious (which i am not) ceremony, forcibly binding two people for life, that has now evolved into a government confirming a relation ship for tax breaks and legal reasons. marriage is just something people are expected to do, and so they do. and when they break up, they just can't walk away, they have months, if not years of painful court and legal issues, with the potential to lose one partners personal belongings and money to a another. and this "privilege" is not even given to everyone who wants to partake, and many people are excluded.
I suppose growing up with a messy divorce between my parents, and a monther whose been married three times, going on four, and having an extended family with no successful marriage has influenced my decision a bit, and a calculated chance (given family histrory) of having a succesful marriage is about 25 percent, but this has stuck with me for years, and i don't intend to lose this belief.
so my question is, being a straight girl, do you think this will prevent me from finding a long term relationship? will guys be put off by this, or more attracted, and do you agree/disgree with me? do you think this is a good decision to make? (im only 16, by the way)
i decided this a few years ago that i would never get married, not that i don't want a long term, hopefully life long relationship, but i never want to get legally married.
i view marriage as an ancient, religious (which i am not) ceremony, forcibly binding two people for life, that has now evolved into a government confirming a relation ship for tax breaks and legal reasons. marriage is just something people are expected to do, and so they do. and when they break up, they just can't walk away, they have months, if not years of painful court and legal issues, with the potential to lose one partners personal belongings and money to a another. and this "privilege" is not even given to everyone who wants to partake, and many people are excluded.
I suppose growing up with a messy divorce between my parents, and a monther whose been married three times, going on four, and having an extended family with no successful marriage has influenced my decision a bit, and a calculated chance (given family histrory) of having a succesful marriage is about 25 percent, but this has stuck with me for years, and i don't intend to lose this belief.
so my question is, being a straight girl, do you think this will prevent me from finding a long term relationship? will guys be put off by this, or more attracted, and do you agree/disgree with me? do you think this is a good decision to make? (im only 16, by the way)