I've been seeing someone for a couple of months now who has been diagnosed and is being treated for depression and anxiety. It seems as though, with us, when things are going good, they are great, but then they always take a bad turn. And I can never trace it back to a specific action or something that I said. It's just, like, all of a sudden, he will say "we need to take this slow" or he'll just stop calling/texting/wanting to see me for days on end. We are really compatible personality wise, and we have a ton of fun when we are together. And, honestly, I am as comfortable with him as with some people that I have known for years, but he is SO all over the place when it comes to some things that I'm just not sure.
I guess my real question is, can this be a symptom of depression and anxiety? I mean, it's obvious, right? Huge mood swings...but it's almost like he turns commitment phobic or something. Is that normal? Also, is it bad for someone who is pretty emotionally stable (I have gone through rough patches, but no worse than anyone else I know...and I'm, literally, the person that my friends count on to be stable for them) to try to make it work with someone who has a mental illness that she doesn't understand? Or am I the kind of person that he needs because I'm stable?
He is being medicated, but not seeing a counselor for it right now (he has in the past). And he does have a history going back to childhood. According to him, the trigger event for everything happened when he was 11, but in talking to him about his past, I would have to say that there were other things leading up to it (parent's divorce, abusive parent, etc).
Thanks for the perspective on this already! Honestly, I think I have been getting on his nerves with my "did I do something wrong?" questions. But this really did shed some light. I just have to know if it's something I can deal with. I'm an approval-seeker, so this really might be too much for me. But on the other end of things, he's SO worth it!
I guess my real question is, can this be a symptom of depression and anxiety? I mean, it's obvious, right? Huge mood swings...but it's almost like he turns commitment phobic or something. Is that normal? Also, is it bad for someone who is pretty emotionally stable (I have gone through rough patches, but no worse than anyone else I know...and I'm, literally, the person that my friends count on to be stable for them) to try to make it work with someone who has a mental illness that she doesn't understand? Or am I the kind of person that he needs because I'm stable?
He is being medicated, but not seeing a counselor for it right now (he has in the past). And he does have a history going back to childhood. According to him, the trigger event for everything happened when he was 11, but in talking to him about his past, I would have to say that there were other things leading up to it (parent's divorce, abusive parent, etc).
Thanks for the perspective on this already! Honestly, I think I have been getting on his nerves with my "did I do something wrong?" questions. But this really did shed some light. I just have to know if it's something I can deal with. I'm an approval-seeker, so this really might be too much for me. But on the other end of things, he's SO worth it!