abused?(it's long but please)? THIS IS WHAT SIMON MY EX/BEST FRIEND WROTE TO MY DAD
Hello Dean I'm glad you added me because I need to tell you something about Ella. I have tried to get her to tell you but she can't bring herself to do it so I've decided to help her because I care for her very much. I've seen the way she has fought with you and I didn't want to get involved but I think it is very unfair on you. This isn't going to be easy for you to read and if it hurts you as much as it hurt me then I'm very sorry but you need to know.
When Ella was a lot younger she was physically and sexually abused by her stepdad Ray. Ella's mother would work night shifts and couldn't arrange a babysitter so she trusted Ray in looking after Ella and Ray's 3 children. Ray would tell the three children to go to bed but make Ella stay up and he would make her cuddle up to him and he would touch her. She told me about other times where he would use kitchen utensils to sexually abuse her, not only that, he would hit Ella and her mother when they did something wrong.
I don't know the full extent of what happened because this is all I managed to get out of Ella and I thought you deserved to know because I believe she has anger towards you because she feels that you weren't around to protect her from Ray. I have spent many nights holding Ella while she cries, telling me about Ray and what he did. I tried to get Ella to see a psychologist but she can't afford it and she won't ask her mum for money. Ella wants to take Ray to court but she doesn't wanna take away Noah, Lily and Kane's father. I'm sorry for having to tell you this and I understand if you are mad at me but this is serious I am not joking, I thought telling you would help Ella. She needs you and I want you to give her another chance, its been years since this happened to her and she still cries most days. I was her boyfriend for 1 year and we broke up recently because she is moving to Brisbane. I just want her to be ok because she is an amazing person and she didn't deserve this, nobody does. Once again I'm truly sorry that you had to hear this I know being her father would be harder to hear this. Please get in touch with her I'll make sure she talks to you, she just needs her father.
MY DADS REPLY
Hi Simon, Thanks for the reply and your openness about this horrible situation with ella. I kinda suspected this was the reason behind all ella insecurities towards me and it hurts me to hear that its true. It has been extremely difficult to see the last decade go by with all her anger and hatred directed at me and i have tried and tried to get close to her without success. She always plays the money card with me in relation to child support and I have paid minimal amount through this agency but once again its difficult to hand out money without any love in return.
I will try to get in touch with ella but it won't be easy as she makes it hard for me to even speak to her directly but I will see how it goes if she will let me in.
I never liked that ray dude and he was a friend of my fathers but hey without her telling me till now, theres no way I could have been there to protect her when all this **** was going down and if I had have known at the time Ray would have had crushed fingers and very sore nuts.
She should seek legal advice about this and seriously get some counseling. This guy needs to pay and short of me going down to tassie and clubbing him to death which wouldn't help, the courts will make him pay. Unfortunately the legal system is a difficult hardline unjust place but with the right attitude this ray could be brought down a peg or two.
I am not the evil bastard that ella makes me out to be and I have always loved her and pray for the day we can have a friendly father and daughter relationship.
GGOD HOW I LOVED TO JUST GIVE HER A BIG HUG I MISS THIS SO MUCH WITH HER AS SHE USED TO GIVE ME BIG HUGS WHEN SHE WAS LITTLE.
SIMON
Yes Ray deserves all the pain in the world for what he did and legal action should be taken but Ella is too scared to do it. Ella is scared to see you because it's been so long since she has seen you last and I know its not your fault because I know you have tried. Ella must only use the money issue as an excuse to cover up what she really means because she doesn't care about money she always wants to buy presents and stuff so I doubt she really cares about the money at all.
(he owes nearly $40 grand in child support) he has only paid about $1000 towards me in my 19 years of life, last week child support stole $500 from his tax money and he was not happy.
Hello Dean I'm glad you added me because I need to tell you something about Ella. I have tried to get her to tell you but she can't bring herself to do it so I've decided to help her because I care for her very much. I've seen the way she has fought with you and I didn't want to get involved but I think it is very unfair on you. This isn't going to be easy for you to read and if it hurts you as much as it hurt me then I'm very sorry but you need to know.
When Ella was a lot younger she was physically and sexually abused by her stepdad Ray. Ella's mother would work night shifts and couldn't arrange a babysitter so she trusted Ray in looking after Ella and Ray's 3 children. Ray would tell the three children to go to bed but make Ella stay up and he would make her cuddle up to him and he would touch her. She told me about other times where he would use kitchen utensils to sexually abuse her, not only that, he would hit Ella and her mother when they did something wrong.
I don't know the full extent of what happened because this is all I managed to get out of Ella and I thought you deserved to know because I believe she has anger towards you because she feels that you weren't around to protect her from Ray. I have spent many nights holding Ella while she cries, telling me about Ray and what he did. I tried to get Ella to see a psychologist but she can't afford it and she won't ask her mum for money. Ella wants to take Ray to court but she doesn't wanna take away Noah, Lily and Kane's father. I'm sorry for having to tell you this and I understand if you are mad at me but this is serious I am not joking, I thought telling you would help Ella. She needs you and I want you to give her another chance, its been years since this happened to her and she still cries most days. I was her boyfriend for 1 year and we broke up recently because she is moving to Brisbane. I just want her to be ok because she is an amazing person and she didn't deserve this, nobody does. Once again I'm truly sorry that you had to hear this I know being her father would be harder to hear this. Please get in touch with her I'll make sure she talks to you, she just needs her father.
MY DADS REPLY
Hi Simon, Thanks for the reply and your openness about this horrible situation with ella. I kinda suspected this was the reason behind all ella insecurities towards me and it hurts me to hear that its true. It has been extremely difficult to see the last decade go by with all her anger and hatred directed at me and i have tried and tried to get close to her without success. She always plays the money card with me in relation to child support and I have paid minimal amount through this agency but once again its difficult to hand out money without any love in return.
I will try to get in touch with ella but it won't be easy as she makes it hard for me to even speak to her directly but I will see how it goes if she will let me in.
I never liked that ray dude and he was a friend of my fathers but hey without her telling me till now, theres no way I could have been there to protect her when all this **** was going down and if I had have known at the time Ray would have had crushed fingers and very sore nuts.
She should seek legal advice about this and seriously get some counseling. This guy needs to pay and short of me going down to tassie and clubbing him to death which wouldn't help, the courts will make him pay. Unfortunately the legal system is a difficult hardline unjust place but with the right attitude this ray could be brought down a peg or two.
I am not the evil bastard that ella makes me out to be and I have always loved her and pray for the day we can have a friendly father and daughter relationship.
GGOD HOW I LOVED TO JUST GIVE HER A BIG HUG I MISS THIS SO MUCH WITH HER AS SHE USED TO GIVE ME BIG HUGS WHEN SHE WAS LITTLE.
SIMON
Yes Ray deserves all the pain in the world for what he did and legal action should be taken but Ella is too scared to do it. Ella is scared to see you because it's been so long since she has seen you last and I know its not your fault because I know you have tried. Ella must only use the money issue as an excuse to cover up what she really means because she doesn't care about money she always wants to buy presents and stuff so I doubt she really cares about the money at all.
(he owes nearly $40 grand in child support) he has only paid about $1000 towards me in my 19 years of life, last week child support stole $500 from his tax money and he was not happy.