Is this a problem?

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wowzers

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I was raised in a very religious home so was told drinkin was wrong. When i got older i stopped being religious but didnt start drinking till 22. I went to a huge party school but never drank once. I am 26 now and have kind of been making up for missing out on drinking in high school and/or college the last 4 years, but as of late i am beginning to wonder if it is a problem.

The biggest thing is that on the weekenRAB i want to go out and have at least one fun night of drinking. Problem is it seems like my body doesnt handle alcohol as well as it used to. I used to be able to get drunk and not forget anything and be very coherent. Now its like sometimes i forget and sometimes get sloppy, something that neer happened even a year ago. Maybe im just getting older and that is normal?

The thing that bothers me is that i dont really know when to stop. Its like i will go out on a weekend night to drink for a buzz but then forget how many drinks ive had and keep going. I keep thinking oh i am just getting more buzzed but then that extra alcohol catches up with me and i get sloppy. This doesnt happen all the time, just that it happens enough and i wouldlike to be able to discern when i need to stop. Its like i feel if i am drunk i need to always have a drink in my hand by habit, even if i shouldnt be drinking it.

I dont want to be like that. I also enjoy drinking but i dont think thats a big deal to have a couple of drinks here and there. My weekend drinking habit bugs the hell out of me. Its like i know the problem now, but once i start drinking i think i am good and it wont happen. Sometimes i think since i didnt party in college i just shifted the drinking phase from 18-23 to 22-? And that is why i still have the party craving, but the problem is that my body does not handle alcohol like an 18 year old. Thoughts? Suggestions?
 
Hi wowzers - welcome to the group. I'll give you a hint... If YOU think you have a problem - you do. And, the fact you came here and expressed the problem enforces that fact and that you really do want help. I would suggest that you seek out a local Alcoholics Anonymous group and attend a meeting. Listen to what they have to say and seek out there assistance. Maybe that will find the extra motivation that you need to give the ability to quit or get it under control. It sound like your problem is escalating and is out of control at the moment. I used to drink, but now when I go to parties, to be social, I'll get one beer and milk that for hours, just so people think that I am drinking.

Maybe you need to stop going to the weekend parties for a while until you can control your problem. Remove the temptation until you can get it under control. I think social drinking is acceptable, but so long as it isn't taken it too far. I think from what you said, you were taking it WAY too far.

Good Luck
 
Hi and welcome,

As someone else already stated, if you think you might have a drinking problem, then you most likely do. I believe that alcoholism is a disease that tells us we don't have disease. Denial is a symptom of that disease.

A friend of mine didn't start drinking until he was 26 because his dad was a chronic alcoholic (redundit phrase) let's say acute, advanced alcoholic. Anyway, it was just like my friend had been drinking like a drunk for years. And he was always so nice and he turned into a completely different person especially when he drank. I think it can be genetic and even skip generations, so that's probably what happened to you, or you simply crossed that invisible line between heavy drinking and alcoholism. It doesn't really matter why.

Try controlled drinking. Belly up to the bar so to say and see if you can drink 2, try it more than once. If you crave more and drink more, you are probably an alcoholic. There are also 20 questions by AA. And if alcohol is causing problems in your life, if you are blacking out, that is a very good indication.

The answer for me was to get honest and go to AA. AA isn't for everyone though, but you gotta get honest with yourself and God and get some help or you just stay stuck in the problem.

Thanks for posting; you helped me today. Lots of people will read your post and it will help some of them too.

rosebuddy
 
I would recommend setting a limit to your the amount of drinks u intake. Maybe drink slower, making one drink last longer:)
just a suggestion. Good luck!
 
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