I dont even know where to start. Due to my recent divorce from my childrens (3 and 2 years old) father, the custody arrangement allows him visitation for 4 weeks out of the year (split up throughout the year). My children just got back from NC (i live in MO) and my 3 year old son shared some info with me that i was uncomfortable with. Out of no where he tells me that my daughter (2 years old) got a "whoopin" (i dont use the word whoopin and he does so i know it came from his house). I asked a couple of general questions and he said she got her nose hurt. i asked a couple more questions and the story didnt seem to be consistent so i brushed it off.
The next day while we were watching tv my son tells me that "daddy has a belt and aubrey (my daughter) got a whoopin" i once again asked a few more questions and first he told me that Mia (my ex's new gf) did it then he told me daddy did it and that once again she got her nose hurt with a belt. I asked him why she got a whoopin and he said because she spilled some rubber bands. I did a once over on my daughter and noticed a bruise on her collerbone that I took a picture of just in case.
I dont know what to make of this info. He favors our son (hence we spent hours in mediation over custody for my sons birthday but he didnt even care to mention getting the kids for my daughters bday). When he was here I shared that the kids like to aggravate each other and that my daughter really knows how to press my sons buttons so dont allow that to happen. He then preceeded to call my son a "punk" and told him not to let his sister beat up on him.
While the kids were gone my ex sent me a message to call him ASAP regarding the kids. He tried to imply that my fiance was beating my daughter due to a large bruise on her back. (This shows how much he has paid attention to our daughter) She was born with 3 Hemangioma birth marks, the stork bite, angels kisses and her bruise on her back called Mongolian Spots. They have been there since birth and her doctor and every one who was there for her delivery can vouch for that. He claims they werent there the last time he had them which means he didnt pay much attention. They are visible and noticeable during a diaper change or a bath and have been the same size since she was born.
I dont know what went down in NC while the kids were gone for the week but when they came back my son was more ornery than ever towards his sister and I think that it was because my ex was lettiing him be that way towards her.
I hope and pray that none of this went down, but what do I do? Im terrified to let the kids, my daughter especially, go to NC this coming May for 2 whole weeks. I want them to spend time with their dad but not if they are going to be hurt. I know if i confront him about it when he has the kids he is going to ask my son a million questions that he isnt supposed to ask (i dont really care since the kids are with me 47 weeks out of the year so yes I will give a little tap to hands and a diaper because I am their disciplinarian). i understand he is their father child support doesnt constitute the role of daddy. What do I do?
The next day while we were watching tv my son tells me that "daddy has a belt and aubrey (my daughter) got a whoopin" i once again asked a few more questions and first he told me that Mia (my ex's new gf) did it then he told me daddy did it and that once again she got her nose hurt with a belt. I asked him why she got a whoopin and he said because she spilled some rubber bands. I did a once over on my daughter and noticed a bruise on her collerbone that I took a picture of just in case.
I dont know what to make of this info. He favors our son (hence we spent hours in mediation over custody for my sons birthday but he didnt even care to mention getting the kids for my daughters bday). When he was here I shared that the kids like to aggravate each other and that my daughter really knows how to press my sons buttons so dont allow that to happen. He then preceeded to call my son a "punk" and told him not to let his sister beat up on him.
While the kids were gone my ex sent me a message to call him ASAP regarding the kids. He tried to imply that my fiance was beating my daughter due to a large bruise on her back. (This shows how much he has paid attention to our daughter) She was born with 3 Hemangioma birth marks, the stork bite, angels kisses and her bruise on her back called Mongolian Spots. They have been there since birth and her doctor and every one who was there for her delivery can vouch for that. He claims they werent there the last time he had them which means he didnt pay much attention. They are visible and noticeable during a diaper change or a bath and have been the same size since she was born.
I dont know what went down in NC while the kids were gone for the week but when they came back my son was more ornery than ever towards his sister and I think that it was because my ex was lettiing him be that way towards her.
I hope and pray that none of this went down, but what do I do? Im terrified to let the kids, my daughter especially, go to NC this coming May for 2 whole weeks. I want them to spend time with their dad but not if they are going to be hurt. I know if i confront him about it when he has the kids he is going to ask my son a million questions that he isnt supposed to ask (i dont really care since the kids are with me 47 weeks out of the year so yes I will give a little tap to hands and a diaper because I am their disciplinarian). i understand he is their father child support doesnt constitute the role of daddy. What do I do?