Is the groom's parents name on the wedding invitation, or just the bride's?

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Is it customary to only put the bride's parents name on the wedding invitation?
Thanks for the replys, my husband and I are contributing to the wedding. We are spending about 4,000.00 to help with costs.
 
It is customary to just put the bride's parents. It has not been until the last few years that I have started seeing the groom's parents on there at all. I've been to over 30 weddings and I think I've seen the groom's parents on there maybe 3 times. It's up to you. It's not expected or mandatory, especially if they aren't contributing toward the wedding

Grammie - I am going based on my experience. In my circle of friends and family I never see the groom's parents names on the invite. Perhaps certain areas of the country are different. In the northeast when the bride's parents are hosting a $30k+ wedding the groom's parents don't get a free shout out.
 
No both parents names should be on it. And it doesn't matter if they are help paying for the wedding or not.

If you exclude one you have to exclude both. They are his parents and they need the respect given to them, He wasn't born under a cabbage leaf was he?

EDIT: luv2answ. To clarify something for you I have been married for 41 years, And even way back then both sets of parents names went on the invitation. It has always been that way, One exception is if the Bride and Groom are the only hosts of the wedding.
 
My mom is paying for my wedding. It'll be

"Mom" requests your presence.....

at the top, and underneath my fiance's name in the middle, we're putting

son of "future in-laws"


I don't think it really matters these days, other than the person that is paying for it (or paying the most) goes first. I originally hadn't put my fiance's parents on the invites, but my future MIL asked me to, just because she's afraid that some people may look at the invite and be like, "Who ARE these people??!!"
 
I would say you should put the grooms parents. my parents didn't get their names on my brother's invitations, and it offended them. unless the situation is very unique, the groom's parents still contribute to the wedding in many ways: paying for the rehearsal dinner, their sons tux, oftentimes the honeymoon...and they'll be family!

the way i'm wording it is:

John and Jane Doe (my parents) would like to invite you to the wedding of their daughter, Sarah Beth, to James Marshall, son of Clark and Deb Marshall. This way it's clear that your parents are hosting it, but it makes them feel included :)
 
I believe it all has to do with hosting the wedding. If the brides parents are contributing the most money, they get their names on the invitation. If the couple is footing the bill, only their names go on the invitation. And so on like that.
 
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