Is she trying to play mind games?

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Last night, I met up with this girl who has been very good friends with me for the 5 years and who also knows that I'm in love with her and her friends at a bar. She's a very smart and beautiful girl. She knows how I feel about her and I know with her, there is also a certain level of reciprocation about feelings for me.

I get to the bar a little late and see her and a friend of a friend of hers flirting, the dude buying her drinks and what not. I really didn't feel threatened by it because the guy seemed like such a douche. But as we're all sitting outside on the patio with other friends, they still continue to flirt, exchanging numbers, her letting this guy she just met to rub her feet while they sat ACROSS from ME on the table and just other various flirtations that progressed as the night went on.

I was a little disturbed at the sight of it but I never let my frustration, uneasiness, maybe even jealousy show on the surface. I just kept it cool through out the night. I may have even played it "too cool" by shaking the dude's hand when I was leaving. Just to kind of show her that it doesn't bother me, when it really did.

My question is this:

What do you think that all meant? Is she playing some sort of mind games to see if I'm the jealous type?

Or could I be just over-reacting and she was playing the man for free drinks? But I think they were getting a little too close for that.

I really don't know anymore but one thing is for certain. If a girl told me she liked me and I also had some feelings for her, I would use discretion if I flirt with another girl. I would never rub it in her face like that. What is the deal with women???
 
She doesn't like you.
If she is telling you she does,
she's saying that to make you feel better.
If she did like you, she'd be all over YOU (or atleast next to you).
 
Welllll, lets see...it sounds like to me she was maybe trying to get you to "chase" her there by "playing" a game. If she really liked you, or truly wanted something special between just you and her she probably shouldn't of been allowing the other guy to rub her feet, she should've been trying to get YOU to rub her feet. I do believe you absolutely did the right thing by not allowing her to see that it bothered you. That will drive her crazy and maybe make her streamline her affections for you. Either way, you probably need to decide if you still want this chic or if this threw some road blocks in the way that you just don't want to bother with. I wish you luck sir, and hope things turn out well for you! :)
 
It might be her way of telling you to make a move if she really feels that way about you. The only way to know for certain is to pursue her and show her the interest she may be craving. If she doesn't respond, then she didn't do it to try to make you pay attention. If she does, it was probably only for that reason that she did it.
 
hey man lose her find a girl that you can really relate to i just had to do that and i feel 100% better about it when it comes down to it personality really rules the feild shes a bitch
 
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