Hello
Im 30 years old and have been with my girlfriend for 11 years. We get on well but we have always had a problem in the sex department. Ive never been satisifed in that area with her. She has never induldged in foreplay and she always seems distant when we do have sex. She was badly mis-treated by an ex-boyfriend before me and so ive never pushed her to do anything she didnt want to but im getting really frustrated now. We just seem like friends. She said to me recently that she zones out during sex and cant relax and also that she can never be a normal girlfriend to me but will make up for it in other ways. Im not really sure what that means but I assume she means like a best friend. Im really torn as ive always treated her right and tried to please her sexually but there is never a response. We have a Morgatge which ties us together but is it wrong to leave a relationship over this? We have been to counselling but to no avail. Any comments would be greatly welcomed. Thank you.
Im 30 years old and have been with my girlfriend for 11 years. We get on well but we have always had a problem in the sex department. Ive never been satisifed in that area with her. She has never induldged in foreplay and she always seems distant when we do have sex. She was badly mis-treated by an ex-boyfriend before me and so ive never pushed her to do anything she didnt want to but im getting really frustrated now. We just seem like friends. She said to me recently that she zones out during sex and cant relax and also that she can never be a normal girlfriend to me but will make up for it in other ways. Im not really sure what that means but I assume she means like a best friend. Im really torn as ive always treated her right and tried to please her sexually but there is never a response. We have a Morgatge which ties us together but is it wrong to leave a relationship over this? We have been to counselling but to no avail. Any comments would be greatly welcomed. Thank you.