Is nature or nurture responsible for cheaters?

Well, it sure isn't nature that caused monogamy. So since nurture is responsible for monogamy, I would assume nurture (or the lack there of) is also responsibly for cheating.

Biology teaches that men generally want to spread their seed as wide as possible, and women want to secure help with child rearing (monogamy). So that is where we start. But women can secure a man's help today (financially at least) without being faithful to him (she'll get the kids and child support regardless of who causes the divorce). And, men have often been nurtured into monogamy as a condition of being allowed to spread their seed (and nurtured to believe that helping shape children from one women is better than having a lot of children with different women that they don't' get to help shape). So, nature and nurture get muddled together on this.

But I stand by my original statement, that monogamy and/or cheating are primarily today caused by nurture. If we followed nature, men would just rape women when they were horny.
 
Well if their family is known for cheating then it could have something to do with genes but still nurture is more influential I would say (personal belief). I think the way they are raised, the friends they make, the neighborhood, and it could be how religious they are as well.
 
In this case I'd say more - nurture. It depends on the environment and people around them. How they were raised and what values they were taught.
 
In the case of my ex-husband, it was nurture. His dad cheated on his mom for 53 years without repercussion, so all the kids (male and female), cheated on their partners. Unfortunately for all of the them, they all did experience the pain of divorce and separation.
 
Cheaters aren't born that way...it's not like they just can't help themselves. Cheating is a CHOICE. People choose to cheat for a number of reasons, but ultimately the underlying reason is always selfishness and a lack of care for the feelings of the person you're already seeing. Cheating is crappy. Cheaters are crappy people. They aren't born cheaters and they aren't raised cheaters..they choose to be cheaters. Let's not shift the responsibility off the individual and make it seem like they are somehow not to blame. They are.
 
[lang=zh-CN]Well it depends partially on the nature and also the nurture.This thing is that a new born child doesn't know all the "evils" before he starts to learn it from his surroundings.It depends on parents to nurture him in a way so as to save him from all the bad habits that surround and ultimately its upon the child to understand it or let it go and remain the evil nature![/lang]
 
Nature, the social context or environment is parasitic, take a look at how politicians act as the ruling elite they set the example. Cheating is a subset of parasitic behaviour.
 
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