I don't know if I'm being too hard on her, or if she truly is slacking in school. She's 11 years old and in the 5th grade. There are several examples I could give you of where I thought her not knowing something was ridiculous, but I'll give one from last night:
She had math, and she had to measure a line with a ruler. Say if the line was 3 3/8 inches, which full inch, which half inch, which quarter inch, and which eighth inch is the line closest to?
Well, she had NO clue how to use a ruler. She had NO clue what the little lines meant on a ruler. She had no concept of fractions. I tried reverting back to drawing a circle or a rectangle, dividing it into several pieces, then shading some of those pieces to get her to give me a fraction. (Example: Circle divided into 4 parts, 3 are shaded, which makes it 3/4)
She is horrible at multiplication, doesn't know any of her times table, has NO clue what division is....
I am pretty sure I knew how to do all that stuff AND more by the fifth grade. However, admittedly, it's been a little while and I could totally have my grades mixed up. Am I wrong? Am I being too hard on her? SHOULD she know these things (or in the very least, have some familiarity with them), or has she not been taught these things yet???
I know that in reading, she has a grade 2 reading level, and the school takes her out of class for 15 or 20 minutes I think to give her extra schooling in reading. She usually has 2 or 3 zero's in a class or two that I have to go up to the school and fix before they get their report cards, so I know she's a slacker. She fights me CONSTANTLY when I try and get her to do her homework, and when I try to help her, she throws up this mental block that I cannot get through and just says I'm wrong on everything.
Am I wrong for being frustrated? Am I wrong about her being under-educated for her grade level? I just feel like I'm at the end of my ropes with her, and it's putting serious strain on my relationship with her father. Any help would be SERIOUSLY appreciated!!!
UPDATE: Okay, I totally agree with the whole punishing her and/or grounding her, taking away her XBOX and phone and whatnot, just to make her realize how serious it is and make her actually TRY...but I have NO say-so in disciplining her. And she doesn't have a learning disability, it's simply a "I-don't-want-to-do-it-and-you-can't-make-me" disability. It's a discipline problem, I believe. My main question was SHOULD she know fractions, multiplication, some division, and FFS at LEAST how to use a ruler!!!
And also any parenting tips would be super helpful on how to deal with this, since I can't discipline her. It's my "job" to make sure she gets stuff done, but yet I have no means to MAKE her do it.... (sigh) It's a stupid situation. Thank god I'm not married yet!! I can still run if need be....and it's looking like it's need-be time. I just wanna know if the situation is fixable.
She had math, and she had to measure a line with a ruler. Say if the line was 3 3/8 inches, which full inch, which half inch, which quarter inch, and which eighth inch is the line closest to?
Well, she had NO clue how to use a ruler. She had NO clue what the little lines meant on a ruler. She had no concept of fractions. I tried reverting back to drawing a circle or a rectangle, dividing it into several pieces, then shading some of those pieces to get her to give me a fraction. (Example: Circle divided into 4 parts, 3 are shaded, which makes it 3/4)
She is horrible at multiplication, doesn't know any of her times table, has NO clue what division is....
I am pretty sure I knew how to do all that stuff AND more by the fifth grade. However, admittedly, it's been a little while and I could totally have my grades mixed up. Am I wrong? Am I being too hard on her? SHOULD she know these things (or in the very least, have some familiarity with them), or has she not been taught these things yet???
I know that in reading, she has a grade 2 reading level, and the school takes her out of class for 15 or 20 minutes I think to give her extra schooling in reading. She usually has 2 or 3 zero's in a class or two that I have to go up to the school and fix before they get their report cards, so I know she's a slacker. She fights me CONSTANTLY when I try and get her to do her homework, and when I try to help her, she throws up this mental block that I cannot get through and just says I'm wrong on everything.
Am I wrong for being frustrated? Am I wrong about her being under-educated for her grade level? I just feel like I'm at the end of my ropes with her, and it's putting serious strain on my relationship with her father. Any help would be SERIOUSLY appreciated!!!
UPDATE: Okay, I totally agree with the whole punishing her and/or grounding her, taking away her XBOX and phone and whatnot, just to make her realize how serious it is and make her actually TRY...but I have NO say-so in disciplining her. And she doesn't have a learning disability, it's simply a "I-don't-want-to-do-it-and-you-can't-make-me" disability. It's a discipline problem, I believe. My main question was SHOULD she know fractions, multiplication, some division, and FFS at LEAST how to use a ruler!!!
And also any parenting tips would be super helpful on how to deal with this, since I can't discipline her. It's my "job" to make sure she gets stuff done, but yet I have no means to MAKE her do it.... (sigh) It's a stupid situation. Thank god I'm not married yet!! I can still run if need be....and it's looking like it's need-be time. I just wanna know if the situation is fixable.