So I've been with this guy for 6 months now and I've always known he's had a temper. He is very competitive and picky about the way people act and can easily switch moods. I've heard that people with high levels of testosterone (his mom was diagnosed with this disorder) can have worse tempers. His sex drive is insane so I'm pretty confident he may have a bit more than usual.
Anyway, he gets angry over things that I find petty. Like if we're playing a game and I don't play up to par, he gets really annoyed with me. He does say hurtful things. I used to fight back and it would blow up into a huge episode, now I've learned to just let things go and take some time apart (he always told me this was best). It still doesn't make the hurtful things go away. Like the other day, he told me to shut up and told me I was saying stupid things. Then tonight, he told me I was making him look bad because I wasn't beating his friends in a game. Not to mention when he really gets angry he brings up things I've told him from my past (that I'm not proud of) and somewhat throws them in my face. I just really don't know what to do anymore. I don't have a problem with arguments, I understand they're normal in a relationship, but it's getting to the point where I just walk away and cry because I don't feel like there's anything else I can do. Our relationship is amazing so long as he doesn't get annoyed by something. I just feel like if you really care about somewhat you don't disrespect them. No matter how mad I got, I would never tell him to shut up.
I just really don't get if this is normal. I definitely feel like I should address the problem (again) but take a different approach. I always bring it up when we're in the middle of an argument. Do you think it's worth sitting down and telling him how much he actually hurts my feelings, or just breaking the relationship? He's so big on the "not changing for anyone" and this is something I feel he should change and if he's not willing to at least try then I don't see why I should put up with it.
Anyway, he gets angry over things that I find petty. Like if we're playing a game and I don't play up to par, he gets really annoyed with me. He does say hurtful things. I used to fight back and it would blow up into a huge episode, now I've learned to just let things go and take some time apart (he always told me this was best). It still doesn't make the hurtful things go away. Like the other day, he told me to shut up and told me I was saying stupid things. Then tonight, he told me I was making him look bad because I wasn't beating his friends in a game. Not to mention when he really gets angry he brings up things I've told him from my past (that I'm not proud of) and somewhat throws them in my face. I just really don't know what to do anymore. I don't have a problem with arguments, I understand they're normal in a relationship, but it's getting to the point where I just walk away and cry because I don't feel like there's anything else I can do. Our relationship is amazing so long as he doesn't get annoyed by something. I just feel like if you really care about somewhat you don't disrespect them. No matter how mad I got, I would never tell him to shut up.
I just really don't get if this is normal. I definitely feel like I should address the problem (again) but take a different approach. I always bring it up when we're in the middle of an argument. Do you think it's worth sitting down and telling him how much he actually hurts my feelings, or just breaking the relationship? He's so big on the "not changing for anyone" and this is something I feel he should change and if he's not willing to at least try then I don't see why I should put up with it.