Is my boyfriend using me for sex? ?

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Okay i'm sure that everyone is sick of reading the boyfriend/girlfriend problems but i feel like my problem needs serious help. First of all i am 17 and my boyfriend is 22. I met him through my best friend because she is dating his brother. My boyfriend and i weren't dating when i gave my virginity to him. I'm not exactly happy for doing this because i was not all myself that night and it didn't feel right after. I am one that has always wanted to give it to the guy i marry and i even told him this but still i said yes. (i don't care if you think this is dumb but i try to have respect for myself). That obviously didn't happen. After that night we ended up seeing eachother more and more and my feelings started to grow. He said he didn't want to make anything official until he met my parents. Both my parents like him but aren't 100% happy that he is almost 6 years older than me ( i just turned 17). Now we are dating and have been for about a month now and it seems like whenever i see him, he wants to do sexual things with me. Just the comments i get from him bother me like "wanna go in my room?" or "lets go in the back seat of the car." Honestly. i know very well how guys are but it's like he doesn't ever just want to cuddle with me or just lay with me. Everything always has to lead to that. I at least wanted to lose my virginity to someone who loved me. He only tells me that he "really likes me." Now i don't care if he just likes me or really likes me either way he ONLY likes me. How many reallys does he have to put in front of like to get love? I don't know i am just waiting for the time when he actually pours his feelings out to me. I know that he is serious about this relationship because he has told me that he wants to settle down soon and have a family. Why would he waste his time with me then? I have mentioned to him several times if all he wants from me is sex (i put it in nicer words) and he gets all upset asking me if i think he is using me. So my question is that am i being used or does he really have an interest in me?
 
if you've had sex with him, than he's using you for sex. Anyone who really loves you would wait untill you're merried. I'm sorry, but he's using you.

Hope everything goes well, God bless.
and again, im so sorry.
 
99% of all men want sex and they want it all the time so that might be what it is but there is the chance that he is using you to get a piece of a** but he hasn't left yet which means there's a reason for him staying. either one he cannot get it anywhere else (no one available) or two he really does like you but sex pops in his brain every second.
 
you gotta ask yourself this question
other than sex what do you have going for you?
all words are bullsh*t
its the actions that matter
try going out with him for a week with absolutely no sex and see how that goes, if it doesnt turn out too well, then you have your answer
and if it does then maybe he is serious.
good luck!
 
at that age you can't expect seriousness - that's what they called being young and hot... since you think different from your boyfriend, don't give him chance anymore to use you.. you’re still young and expect … more will come your way
 
Sorry to hear about your situation hun, and I agree it does sound like he is using you for sex - especially when you bring it up and he doesn't reassure you, just seems to try and make you feel guilty.

I guess the only way you will find out is by refusing to have sex with him. Next time he says "wanna go to my room?", just say "No thanks, I fancy watching TV in here tonight."

Put your foot down, even if he starts begging "Please can we have sex" - just tell him no, you don't feel in the mood. The more he pesters, or if he starts acting cold and doesn't show any interest in cuddling or conversation, then you will know everything you need to know.
 
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