Is my boyfriend getting Booty Calls AFTER our dates ? Weird clues ?

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IDK i feel in my gut that something is up with my boyfriend
on valentine;s night he said he felt sick and offered to drive me home at 9:30 pm after dinner
i said no i would take care of him
next day he was suddenly better
then this saturday he took me to dinner, we watched a movie, made out and then he suddenly announced he would drive me home at 11pm
he said since he is selling his house , he has a 9 am showing to wake up for.. i live 15 minutes away and dont have car, he did joke tonight he/we should buy me a car.

Anyway, I was all ready to stay and please him and make out more.
he was telling me Im so hot and sexy and he adores me and then boom decides to drive me home...

since he had been sick the week before it had been nearly two weeks since we REALLY made out.

am i being paranoid ?
Im just sitting here feeling like the night ended too early.
he is 40 and played catch with his son all afternoon, he kept yawning that he was sorry he was tired.
im 31 and look and fele young and have so much energy.
is he just older and thats why its normal for him to turn in early for bed ?

* 14 hours ago
update*******
i first posted this last night
he never called me when he was supposed to get home at 1130 pm (i asked him to)
he emailed me at 9 am today that he was awake and rushing to get out of the house for the showing...(huh he is usually up at 6-7 am and wanted to drop me home early, why was he rushed for time at 9 am?)
he then called me at 11 am and said he had decided to start wokring out hardcore again for first time in years....
Hmmm.... He then joked so i dont leave him for my exbf (im still great friends with my exbf)


and I should add we usually have always stayed out or seen other until 2 or 3 am.
he has acted differently since he went out on a tuesday night 2 weeks ago with someone he called a 'friend' and also one thing he never did before was take calls during dinner and step outside.
he says theyre business contacts but seems strange on a saturday night.

thoughts ???
he only has partial custody of his son

s, m, t, f

BUT the last two tuesday nights he didnt have his son because he was out to dinner 'wtih a friend' and then last week said he wen tto dinner with a couple male friend

his occupation ALSO puts him in touch with many attractive women who he could help with work.
so thats why im being so vigilant.
sigh

he was so romantic and lovely at the start. this sucks. :(
 
I think that you shouldnt let it go right away, but dont be too worried
A little suspicious, but like you said, maybe its just that hes older
 
How long have you been dating him? If your gut is telling you that something is wrong, trust your gut. Because it's always right. If you are use to hanging out with him until 2am and he is looking to drop you off out of no where, then something might be up. But staying out late can always catch up to the person too.
 
This man is playing you like a fiddle.

Just break it off now. Don't give him any reason, he doesn't deserve it.
He will probably not even push the issue as he already has a backup.
He is dating someone else and will dump you soon if you don't do it 1st.
Block his calls and e-mails and refuse to see him. It makes getting over them easier.
 
Your not being paranoid. Seriously something is up. Do what every girl has the right to do when put in that situation. Stalk his ass. You need to creep on him like its your job. Be a detective, because something is funky
 
sound very suspicious, you should really try to get to the bottom of this coz it seems like he is seeing someone other than you.
 
Suspicious yes, don't jump to conclusions though. Try to find out whats going on without him knowing, and without being sneaky, and don't tell him what you think, it might anger him and make him leave, then what if you were wrong? you'd be losing a good man.
All the best anyway x
 
Maybe he is losing interest. Sorry. :( It seems like you should just talk to him and find out what's going on and hopefully he'll be honest with you.
 
When I read it from the beginning,I want to think maybe he was tired from the stress of selling a house.But some of the clues sound strange.Also that you don't have a car is an advantage to him.

Can you try to ask him if he is cheating on you?Be firmly direct.Just ask in a calm voice.And just explain,that it would be better to be up front with you.Why drag someone through that?Just explain that if he is seeing someone else, let you know so you can move on as well.I think Men like directness.just get to the point,hun.Don't sugarcoat it ,just ask him!!!! Tell him that you would have the decency to let him know if you met another guy.And if you liked that other guy ;better than him.At least that is being honest,and not a sneak.

But then again maybe he isn't doing anything?It's so hard to say.But it almost sounds like something is up his sleeve and it's not his elbow.

Well,you also mentioned he has a son.Does he have full custody or part?Kids can drain your energy.They are alot of responsibilities.And very active and so forth.You may have a child yourself?

Please talk to him about your relationship.If he doesn't want to talk,then you know he is hiding something from you.Without communication there is nothing.And you might as well let him go.

Hope this helped you out.Good Luk!
 
you are coming undone about this guy who is not giving you even the basic requirements of being a boyfriend. of course he's not into you, of course he's doing other things...whether there's a girl involved doesn't even matter. but it sounds like he is seeing someone else but isn't dumping you YET because he wants to see if it works out first. always good to keep something on the side just in case. in other words....lose the loser!!! he is not being cool to you and you don't feel secure in the relationship. stop obsessing and playing detective and leave. if you don't, you will be crying about this a few months from now, trust me. just stop calling him and don;t see him. you don't even need to explain, other than i need more form this relationship and you don't even want to spend the night with me. goodbye.
 
definitely doing something. don't sit around and get played. you should go out on a date with a so called friend too and when he asks tell him what he told you it was a friend
 
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