is it wrong to hide my sexuality from my parents?

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SmellsLikeTeenSpirit

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my parents are extreme homophobes. even my 10 year old little brother is becoming a homophobe. im afraid of how my parents will react. i wont be old enough to move out for several years now. is it wrong to hide the fact that im a lesbian?
 
No its wrong, your not ready to come out plus life for a outed gay teen isnt easy at school at home just wait a little

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No its wrong, your not ready to come out plus life for a outed gay teen isnt easy at school at home just wait a little

SMells like teen sprit is the best song ever!
 
No, it's only sensible.
Don't come out till you are old enough to move out and support yourself. Then DO it.
You don't have to tell that bunch of willfully ignorant folk a thing. Live your own life and leave them to get on with theirs.
You have been given the wonderful gift of being gay. You'll meet some marvellous people and, if you're honest with yourself, you'll have a happy and fulfilled life.
It is gay people who have kept science, the arts, and so on going. This is OUR civilisation.
First complete your education, then move to somewhere where you don't have to keep hiding your true self - you don't have to screech at everyone that you're gay, but you won't have to lie about it either. Just keep quiet, change the subject, maybe frown a little. Let them live with their problem.
 
If you are a minor and under their roof and they are homophobes - you are very smart to not tell them anything at all. They could kick you out, send you to a program to turn you straight and make your life miserable. Don't tell them until you are at least no longer a minor - ideally when you have a job or on your own and paying your own bills.

When you can tell them - years from now - give them a little time to adjust but let them know that their attitudes suck and that a prerequisite for having you in their lives is them changing. Attitudes like theirs cause suicides and gay bashing and I think the way the think is deplorable!

People never used to come out at all for their whole lives. You can wait a few more years.

In secret - try and join a gay youth group. You can find them in gay community centers, schools or online. You would be better joining one in person - but go on line if you have to. Google gay community center or gay youth group plus the place you live and see what pops up. http://www.ourtruecolors.org/ Get some friends in the gay community. If you can, find some older mentors that are not in to you sexually.

Watch the it gets better campaign by Dan Savage. Read up on gay civil rights and history. Watch the documentary on the Stonewall riot that pbs just aired. Check out the hrc site: http://www.hrc.org/

Know that God loves you and that he made you the way you are because that is how he wants you to be. Their are gay and gay friendly religious denominations. The bible has been hijacked by religious some fundamentalists into meaning things it does not. Their are gay interpretations of the bible. If beeing in heaven meant I had to act like some people that are really bigots then I would question it! http://www.soulforce.org/ http://mccchurch.org/ http://www.afterellen.com/podcasts/ohgodimgay
 
No, it's only sensible.
Don't come out till you are old enough to move out and support yourself. Then DO it.
You don't have to tell that bunch of willfully ignorant folk a thing. Live your own life and leave them to get on with theirs.
You have been given the wonderful gift of being gay. You'll meet some marvellous people and, if you're honest with yourself, you'll have a happy and fulfilled life.
It is gay people who have kept science, the arts, and so on going. This is OUR civilisation.
First complete your education, then move to somewhere where you don't have to keep hiding your true self - you don't have to screech at everyone that you're gay, but you won't have to lie about it either. Just keep quiet, change the subject, maybe frown a little. Let them live with their problem.
 
In your situation it would be smarter to hide your sexuality. For a start it's none of your parents' business, but the fact that they have such negative views can only lead to unnecessary drama and potential problems for yourself.
It's sad that hiding who you are is the best option, parents should be unconditionally accepting of their children.

Whatever you decide to do, good luck with it.
 
In your situation it would be smarter to hide your sexuality. For a start it's none of your parents' business, but the fact that they have such negative views can only lead to unnecessary drama and potential problems for yourself.
It's sad that hiding who you are is the best option, parents should be unconditionally accepting of their children.

Whatever you decide to do, good luck with it.
 
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