Is it weird to be asked if someone can borrow your wedding dress a month after you were

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married? I just got married a less then a month ago, got back from my honeymoon about three weeks ago and my husband's aunt askes me if her sons girlfriend could wear my dress to her own wedding in a year. My dress hasn't even been cleaned yet and is still hanging up in my mother's closet from when she picked it up from the hotel the morning we left for our honeymoon and I have yet to go and even pick it up.

This girl has been living with her "husband" for about 12 years now and they have a child "together" who magically turned out black instead of white like his father and mother and the whole family pretends that he's white and acts like there is nothing wrong in this situation (Think of Me, Myself and Irene and you'll get the picture) but I haven't said a damn thing about it and it really wasn't and isn't my place to do so.

We are not friends. We don't talk and to be quite honest I don't like her very much because she obviously cheated on her boyfriend and continuous to try and play it off telling the poor boy he's italian (he gets teased ALL the time).

So when I was asked about whether or not she could use my dress (borrow it and alter it since she is about 4 sizes larger then me and shorter as well) I said NO, because it was weird to me. I just BARELY took that dress off and I was JUST married.

So I got a call getting told I was incredibly rude for being pissed off and saying no--- and that I was being RUDE. Is it weird to be asked such a thing of someone who is neither a friend, or someone I even like, to BORROW (And ultimately alter) MY wedding dress so they can use it at their own wedding-- the dress I spent my wedding night in and everything.

Or perhaps I am just crazy. If it were 5 years from now I probably wouldn't be so insulted (I AM flattered she thinks my dress is beautiful but I think it's disgustingly weird to be asked to wear it) but because it's only been a MONTH from my OWN wedding date, I'm pretty upset that I'm getting such heat over this...

What do you think? Am I CRAZY?
 
Hmm...thats a little odd. I am thinking this girl just doesn't have the money for her own dress. PLUS...do you want to see pic of her in YOUR wedding dress? That would be weird. I think it is your dress, do what you want with it. I would just tell them that you have already arranged for your dress to get cleaned and then are planning on preserving it for you and putting it in a box to keep.
 
I don't think you're crazy. I would have told her the same thing. And according to the old wives tale it's bad luck to let someone borrow your wedding dress (good luck tot he borrower though).
 
I would not let her borrow it. Honestly if she needs a dress she has time to go and find one and if not too bad. You paid for that dress and it's yours therefore if you wanted to offer it to someone you would. Besides she didn't even ask you herself which seems even more odd to top off the whole situation.
 
Is it okay for me to laugh now?

You are not the crazy one in this story.

Wedding dresses are expensive. If she wants yours, and wants to alter it that much she should just buy it from you. And honestly, I don't think, (as an amateur seamstress), it is always possible to add that much fabric, i.e. take a dress up that many sizes! One or two sizes is hard enough!
 
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