Is it weird for a guy to feel like this about sex?

[Buck]

So I guess what I am asking is this NORMAL for a guy to feel this way about the act?

"sacred." and meaningful with his wife (or one he is about to make a covinent with). YES!


Is it because he was wounded in the past?

If he is having issues with past relationships then it could be possible that it is affecting him now.


Am I over reacting or are these valid concerns?

It is valid concerns because you are about to make a bonding life committment and you have the right to be concern about what is going on with him.


And what can I do about it?

Let him know how you feel and that you want to be open and respectful to help him if their is anything he may need to help him get past this so that you can enioy one another and make wonderful memories to share together.


I myself am in my 30s and most guys and I desire and enjoy doing the things that you are trying to accomplish with him so I am unsure why he does not JUMP at the opportunity but 1 thing for sure, pressuring a guy has the reverse affect on guys and he will feel stressed, nervous and not "up to the task" so to speak. Don't give up for if you are patient and even pursistent (in a playful way), once he finally gives in he will be greatful he did, Thankful to you for enduring and excited for what is to come in the future (No pun intended)!

 

[Aryn]

My fiance is 30, and we have been having some issues lately. I want sex to be a little less predictable, and a little more spontaneous. But whenever I try to come onto him in some out of the ordinary situation, he turns me down. I dont even try anymore because I am sick of being rejected... it makes me feel unwanted. We have always had great sex, but Im tired of it being so predictble, same place (the bed) same time... every now and then maybe the shower or something. I want it to be more spontaneous, like in a vehicle or outdoors.... I dont mean to give off too much detail, I hope you get my drift. I know he has done these sorts of things in the past with others.

I talked to him about it and he said with me, sex is "sacred." He has also said that sex in an emotional thing for him and that he wants to save the "fantasies" for marriage. I feel like I am his boring wifey and hes finished with the adventurous stuff of his past. I also know that he got cheated on by his first girlfriend. I thought most guys like these sort of "kinky" things (if you can even call it that) So I guess what I am asking is this NORMAL for a guy to feel this way about the act? Is it because he was wounded in the past? Am I over reacting or are these valid concerns? And what can I do about it?