Is it weird for a guy to feel ashamed after sex?

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Ray

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Sounds like you're spiritually distressed. Though in the view of the world, a guy sleeping around may seem completely normal, if a girl did it she'd be labelled slutty.

The truth about sex is, it's not just a fun human activity to do with another person, the whole purpose of it was to be more connected to your partner. That's why there is the whole sex after marriage because sex was just originally intended only for those who were married in order to let them spiritually and physically connect to each other in a deep way because it wasn't just for anyone, it was for your partner!

Nowadays, people sell sex like its nothing and they have it with anyone which completely degrades what sex is really meant for. To be honest I think you're spiritually distressed because even though in your own mind you think you're doing nothing wrong, and even though the world may tell you that its okay just keep doing it, deep down your spirit is telling you that there is something wrong.
 
So I'm not sure if I'm alone on this, I'm 21 and i do well with women. But after almost every hookup i have i feel awful about myself and go through usually a couple days of shame and guilt. I am not religious and honestly i love sex and don't think I'm doing anything morally wrong. Also I never push sex i just let things happen, so why do i go through all this remorse? Does this happen to anyone else?
 
Maybe it is because you are just hooking up and it makes you feel cheap because deep inside you know that you probably will never see this person again. Also with hook ups no emotional attachment is involved but plain sex. Maybe you want something more than a hook up.
I know hooking up does not work for me because it makes me feel the same way you do.
 
Well you certainly seem to have some moral issues about it, despite what you say. If you didn't you would feel no remorse at all. Have you actually had a long term relationship, rather than simple hook ups? Maybe you're actually looking for something more stable, but you're just having one nighters rather than an actual relationship. What you should do is stop with the one night stands, and focus on meeting someone you can have something more substantial with.
 
It's not abnormal to regret things you do by listening to your "head down there." It feels so right until afterward, and then you feel wrong.

But the truth is, there's nothing wrong with sex. Just make sure you are having sex with quality people.
 
You're probably smart enough to realize that the sexual interactions you're getting are on a purely physical basis. It might seem cool to some people to get a lot of ass every night, but it's very depressing when it's JUST ass, and no real human interaction. I'd recommend actually dating someone. Find someone who will get involved with you, and do things that you can both enjoy, that isn't just sex.

That kind of remorse and guilt happens to anyone with a brain. Good for you.
 
I don't know. Maybe in the back of your mind you want something out of it more than just sex, maybe you need someone to love?
 
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