is it true a Virgin will think more about sex then a none Virgin, and is...

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...virginity important to you? I am 30 and a proud virgin. It is just so many people say I think to much about sex. They do not understand a virgins mind, they probably just jumped on something to get rid of it and care nothing for sex, or are being fed so much they do not think about it. Or like my family in christ care nothing about heaven and live as children of the world. It means nothing to people. It is very important to me, and something if not done holy is lost forever. To never hold onto my wife forever is something evil. So it is one of my many searches for the Lords righteousness in it and have it added unto me. He has just not added to me yet. It is such a big deal to God and me, because everyone sense Adam and Eve have fallen from heaven with each other and are cursed to walk like the angels. It is like I teach to people who do not care.

anyway to make my point is in normal for a virgin to think more on sex then a non virgin, and is and why is not virginity important to you?
 
I'd say for a 30 year old you don't have the best grammar. Putting that aside, I think it's highly admirable that you are a virgin. As for your answer, I am a virgin and don't think about sex too much, maybe just when I'm extra hormonal (cough cough during a certain womanly cycle), but in addition to hormones it is curiosity, which is healthy.
 
its very refreshing that you want to hold on to this when you do marry you can know you gave all of yourself to your husband
 
It depends on the virgin. As a NON virgin, sex is not that important to me. Its just sex. It was important, before I lost it though.
 
I can defintly see it from your point of view. If your a christian stick to your beliefs and I think virgins think more of sex becuase theyre curious its somehting they have not yet experienced.
 
I'm 18 and going to wait until marriage. But think about it. Those that are no longer virgins sleep around like rabbits and dogs. Now tell me who are the ones that are always thinking about sex?
 
Seeker the possible reason that people say you think about sex too much is because they have read your previous questions, or visited your profile page and looked at your past questions. The #1 topic with you on this board is either sex or your lack of a wife or something close in nature to those. I applaud you for remaining a virgin and not committing fornication outside of wedlock. I do, however also remember that sex within the bonds of marriage is a blessing and the intimacy shared between a husband and wife is nothing to fear or be ashamed of. The marriage bed should not be defiled and yes virginity is important. But in response to your question friend you constantly talk about the people who follow after the world and how they are wrong, friend search your own heart, you constantly talk about sex on this board. If that is the case where is your focus? It seems to be on sex and conversations about sex, and as per your own words that is a "worldly" thing so then is your focus on God.... or worldly things. By constantly talking about and bringing up sexual discussions....... where is that focus again???
You have commented to me about my "lover".... my lover is my wife of 19 years and we have 6 wonderful God loving children who have been a true blessing to my life. I pray one day you can come to know that God does have someone for you and pray that your life is richly blessed also. It seems to me friend and I am no psychologist but based on some of your posts here.... you fear women and relationships, and that is a sad thing. Pray dear one that God bring you to understanding and you will be released from your fear.
 
Well i believe everyone thinks of sex differently. Just for a virgin, what they would be thinking of is what is sex like? is it that great? Some people who lose their virginity stop thinking of sex as much as they used to after experiencing it. But there's still the thought of when they will do it again. And virginity is important to me. For i believe you should only have sex with someone you love and you know that person will be a part of your future. I feel sorry for those who decided to throw it away so easily and end up regretting it later.
 
If virginity is such an important thing to you, who cares what others think?

Why are you making such a big deal, religious or not, about virginity?

Be yourself, hold fast to your beliefs. Virgin or not, what really matters is what your hold true and why is this even an issue?
 
I was a virgin until last February 4th (I was 21)... It was very imporant to me at the time, staying a virgin , and now I wish I had. You see, I am a homosexual, and being a Christian as well I found it disturbing to even consider acting out what occasionally popped up in my head... I devoted my life to trying to understand and heal the wounds that brought me this perverse mindset. But I fell one day hardly even thinking, driven by lust and longing, in the throughs of depression, and what I had should have been everything to me, but it simply felt shameful and lonely...Honestly I can't tell you if virgins think about sex more than non-virgins, but I personally think I thought about sex more often before hand than after. It wasn't until August of last year (when I turned 22) that I fell once again. This time my reasoning was that I was already tainted, so it no longer mattered, plus I only had sex once with a man and wanted to see if doing it with another was any different. Nope... I had the same shameful feeling as before. Neither time did I enjoy it although both times it was with an experienced and considerate man. I had the same shameful feeling when I had a girlfriend years before. When we kissed and made out, I felt disgusting and cold. Now I am continuing my life of healing and avoiding sex once again.

I don't think you are missing out on anything and I agree with your thoughts about sex. I shared those beleifs, but now that I have fallen in this area, what I thought before has only been proven to me with experience. If you feel having sex outside of marriage is shameful, you will feel so still if you do it.

So thinking more or less about sex I think depends on every individual... not on whether they have had sex or not.
 
im a virgin but i want to wait for right person witch i think i found but never the less im more worried of sex then wanting to do it question arise what if im not good what if i hurt here what if i cant make her happie
 
umm well its pretty much what you think. Like im pretty sure God wouldnt mind if you do it with your WIFE that why fall in love, to not be alone and to recreate, unless your a nun
 
I am a proud virgin. 22. It is very important to me. It is precious and unique and keeping it is one way to show my Creator that I will not live my life satisfying selfish desires. My body does belong to him since I'm not married for it to belong to a husband.

I won't lie. It's not the easiest thing in the world to not think about it. It is constantly on my mind because of my curiosities.

I'm praying to him for a significant other. We'll see how he answers...
 
Wow! I think people are losing their virginity too young, but to never have had sex? At 30? Life is so short to be denying yourself pleasure and intimacy. You never know what is around the corner so maybe you should live your life now and enjoy it. That is why God gave you life...to enjoy it.
 
Virginity to me is very important because when you have sex it is supposed to be a beautiful thing and I'm not gonna do it with some guy that u just met and dnt even know his last name. I mean I want my first time to mean something I me I want to do it when I am in love and married with someone.
 
I don't know. I think all people think about sex the same ammount. it's just non-virgins think about it on another level. Like how to get better or how to please their partner more. They know whats going on and can direct their thoughts. Virgins have never experienced sex so their thoughts are all over the place because they don't know first hand what it's like.

I don't think you should act so righteous just because you've never put your pee in a vagee. In my opinion there are more important things that God will judge you on than the person you spent a special evening with. Sex as a sin seems really overplayed while people kill each other and steal from each other every day and it's considered ok. I think sex between 2 consenting adults who care for each other is beautiful reguardless if they are married or not. I'ts like turning 21. Whats the big deal if you have a beer the day before you turn 21? Should you be considered a crimminal and tossed in prison?

It's not so much that "virginity" is important to me but having sex with someone I care about and respect is important to me. Quality over Quanity. I don't think barring yourself from sex is noble. Think of all the opportunites and experiences you have stolen from yourself. It just seems like you love yourself too much that you will never be capible of giving that love to some special girl. Screw You, Literally - you could use it.
 
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