Is it time in our relationship to have sex?

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I've been dating my boyfriend for 2 years now.
I really love him, and he really loves me.

I'm 18 and hes 21.
Hes already in college, and i'm on my way also.
We are really close, and we've been together the entire time. [[no off and ons!]]

I really seriously believe hes the one, but...its always too young to tell...

But anyway, for our 3rd year in july, hes taking me on the Carribbean Cruise, and I'm extremely excited.
& i feel as if i want it to be very special, as in...having sex with him the first time.

Although i'm not strict on waiting till marriage [[neither is he]], but i'm not one of thooses girls who just have sex with someone a month later...i really wait until i know that i love them..and i want it to be special.

He respects me, and never pressures me into anything!

We are both virgins [[i know thats hard to believe]]
We both have been waiting for someone we truely love.

Do you think we have been going out long enough and have feelings enough, to have sex for the first time together?

Oh and by the way- he doesn't know about this, b/c i really want to surprise him, but i'm terrified he'll reject me. How do i know if hes ready like i am?
 
I think you have been together for long enough now, but you still have to decide if you're "ready." If you are both ready, then just let the moment happen. If you're out to dinner, bring up the subject, then see what happens when you get home.
 
well if i wuz a girl i wud just strate up ask him if he wants to have sex if he didnt say yes within like 5 seconds i wud explain my thinkin to him and if he still didnt want to id be like ok i understand its kool
 
i know you've been going out for two years and you really think you love him, but this is probably not going to be the guy you're going to marry. if you do end up marrying him, you're probably going to get a divorce in your thirties or forties. that's why i'm dead set against sex before you're married. women wear white on their wedding day to symbolize purity. think about long term here, wouldn't it be amazing to say you've only had sex with your husband? then again, i'm not in your place and i don't know what your relationship is like so all i'm saying is to take into account what i just said.
 
Sex is serious step for both the people in the relationship. If you've been dating for two years and still haven't made that step, then I don't think springing it on him is the best choice to make. He's probably thought about it happening on the cruise too, but it will still be a shock to him if you just whip it out, ready for sex. My suggestion is that you talk to him first. Since you're both virgins this is a major point in both of your lives. You both have to be ready for it. Plus, talking to him about it is surprise enough! You both could plan on losing your virginity's together. It shouldn't be just you thinking about it right now, you know? I hope this helps! And congratulations on having someone so special in your life! This next step should be great and a whole new chapter in your relationship! :) Good luck! (And make an appointment to get birth control before the cruise!)
 
There's no exact point in your life that states you must have sex at this time on this day. Also, you must consider: is HE ready for sex? To make it enjoyable and NOT rape, you have to consider both sides.

Anyway. Since you're 18 and he isn't a minor, then sure. Keep in mind that even if you use all the contraceptives in the world and he wears the best condom, that does not guarantee anything at all. You will still have a tiny tiny chance of having a baby, and it only takes once to get pregnant. So just be careful

Either way, good luck and have fun on the cruise :) Who knows? Maybe he might propose to you there ;)
 
i dont think he will reject u ur just nervous bout it....i think its ok for u 2 to have sex. u been together for a long time n most importantly ur in love w/ one another. but if u think its time then go for it gurl
 
It sounds like you and your boyfriend were raised with really strong morals. I think that since you've waited this long, you SHOULD wait until you're married with him. It will be that much more special and you'll know for sure that he's ready when you are
 
If you feel as if your ready for next step go for it and he is guy he won't reject you lol
 
i dont think if you set like a date on when to have sex it would be as special (virgin too). i would just see where it goes when he takes you on that trip. and if it happens. it happens. its pretty clear you both love each other.







thumbs down? wtf.
 
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