Is it strange for a mother to feel "hurt" because a 23yr old daughter didn't

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Future Rich Girl

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discuss BC with her? I am getting married and of course am on birth control.
I am from a very conservative religion that believes in waiting until marriage for sex, but I am not a virgin.
My mom tried to have "the talk" to me about my BC plans.
I told her I already have BC.
She felt hurt and left out because she thought it should be something I a mother and daughter would share.
Is this normal?
It feels creepy to me to talk to my mom about sex and BC?
 
It really depends on the relationship you have with your mother. You're going to get different answer from everyone, to some it's weird and to some it's perfectly natural.

As for me, I would think it kind of creepy.
 
Since you are 23 it is a little weird for her to care that much but if you were 15 then I could understand. She needs to understand and realize your a grown-up now and you can make your own decisions. I am also 23 and I have been married 2 years and have a child, so your in the right by making your own choices. My parents tried stepping in but soon realized I would have to make my own decisions. Its weird for her to care so much for your age.
 
honestly its her fault for not having spoken to you before... did she actually expect you too maintain yourself in the dark without finding out informatiom yourself? sure its always nice if the parent talked about it but its too late.
why not let her in on other details... to make her feel a little valued and included... dont share too many details or she will always want to know the knitty gritty details!!
if she wants to talk about sex and bc just listen to what she has to say.. you dont have to participate in the talk if it makes you feel uncomfortable just let her do the talking!! these things will ease up with time!!
 
She is probably suspects you have had sex before marriage and this is what is bothering her. She knows that her daughter is growing up. It might be creepy but now is the time to share thoughts and inputs about sex and bc. Your relationship will become more like friends or sisters with your mother once you start opening up to her. But that is my opinion. Yes this is normal. I went through the same thing myself.
 
Well, it feels odd to you, but mothers and daughters do talk about birth control and other aspects of sexuality between themselves. It wouldn't hurt to ask your mother HER thoughts on birth control, sometimes older Mums can really surprise you!
 
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