Is it possible to slow down after sexual intimacy already started?

[Linda]

I was sexually aggressive in the beginning of this this relationship, which now I regret, because I realize it wasn't right because although he likes me about the same as I like him, he has been hurt in the past and was wary of my aggressiveness (I'm an Aries, what can I say?) We've gotten very intimate but not gone all the way and both of us are probably a little scared because our relationship seems to be cascading too rapidly. He is seeing another women but not regularly and already told me he likes her but is not "in love with her", which is a relief for me because I have a huge fear of committment, but I could fall for this guy and I he could fall for me too, but I've also been hurt badly in a long term past relationship. We think about each other all the time but seem to have this "dance" going on. I don't put any pressure on him to stop seeing this woman or pressure to see me all the time, I've worked really hard to have my own life, which is pretty good. Should we retreat and start back at step one where we are just friends? Is it possible to be good friends again with no intimacy and start over very slowly? Thank you for your input.