Is it okay...

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Hello, everyone...I need someone or everyone (that would be cool) to tell me if it's okay about the following because I am really feeling down: Is it okay that I haven't had a shower in a couple of days? Is it okay that my house looks like a F5 tornado visited? Is it okay that I don't feel "sexy" anymore? Is it okay that my toe nails need clipped, but I can't comfortably reach them anymore? Is it okay that I broke a few rules and had a wine cooler for dessert tonight? Is it okay that I haven't made a home-cooked meal in I don't know how long? Finally, is it okay that I am "dependent" and not "addicted" to health boarRAB? I just need some encouragement, I guess!
 
IT'S OKAY!! I have had a few months of feeling the same way. I feel if it is what saves your sanity then it must be okay!!
 
I also say, YES it's okay. You are only able to do what your body lets you when you're in pain. Though I still have to tell myself this over & over again as I'm quite stubborn. I guess it comes down to trying to find alternate ways to do things, easier ways, and some things just have to be skipped (as much as we hate that). But I think one of the best things you can do is tell someone how you are feeling, such as you just did, because you really need to get it off your chest. It won't help your pain, but I am sure it helps at least somewhat mentally to let someone know...and even to hear that is okay. THat many of us have gone through this and you are not alone.
 
I am there with ya sister! My house looks like an f5 tornado hit it, I dont feel like going anywhere or doing anything and I feel like I am 47 going on 92. I haven't been to the beauty shop since before my surgery in Noveraber, 2006. I have managed to grow my hair almost down to my butt. I cook but I make it easy on myself. For example instead of making homemade mashed potatoes I buy country crock and little cheats like that, and I use the crockpot a lot more than I used to. You just have to do what you can when you can and try your darndest not to let it get you down. Doug and I are just starting to recover from the worst flu known to mankind. we have had fevers chills nausea coughing sneezing and sleeping about 15 hours a day. He had to take sick time and Doug never calls in sick...so it was pretty bad. Oh yeah plus it (the flu) had a headache and body aches you wouldn't believe. Add that to the back and neck stuff and crummy weather and I'd say we have every reason to be a little down.
This to shall pass my friend. Take it easy and try not to feel guilty if everything takes awhile to accomplish it will get done. ))))))))))hugs ((((((((((
Take care, Dee;)
 
What we all need to learn is that it is OK to let go. You need to learn to let forgive yourself when you can't do what you normally feel that you should.
(waving at Emily) Hi Emily! Emily is right. We all need to forgive ourselves and just overlook the pile. What I do is decide that I am going to see how long it will be before my hubby will pick up whatever it is that is laying on the floor. So far he has added three weeks of junk mail to the pile.

What I have learned since my surgery is that patience is a virtue. And a little of it goes a long way...and the people who come to my house come to see me, not to see my house so - oh well!

And since my surgery has made sure that I will never cut my toes again, I get a pedicure every month and have no guilt about it. end of that discussion. Hubby does notwant to cut my toes so that took care of it. I get a pedi.

You need to learn what to feel guilty about. Don't stress yourself about things that you can't change. No sense getting a headache over something that is inconsequencial.

have a cup of hot chocolate, read a book, take a pain pill and a nap...it will look better later...
 
Hey I am telling you It Is Okay. My husband usually does a good job cleaning the house if I am not feeling well but this time he isn't so helpful. I really don't want to say much because I know there are days he doesn't feel good. He still is recoverying from kidney cancer last January. He is doing good but he seems to tire easily. The cancer was Stage 2 so he didn't have to take chemo or radiation.

Depending how I feel on a given day I do try and wash the dishes and pick up the junk mail that is all over the place.

Linda
 
Yes, this is OK. I always was a prefectionist, I can't do it anymore, I have to give up on many-many things and look the other way.
By the way, my hobby clipped my toenails last night, it looks very uneven, but can i do it myself? Nope, so I have to accept it.
Many things changed for us, the main thing as far as I concern is too keep our spirits up and think positive. This helps a lot. Rest of it - whatever it is anymore....

My heart is with you!:)
 
Hey Emily and Moldova and everyone else thank you for the replies. I got a few hours of sleep last night and dosing off in the living room. I don't understand this medication thing either but I am going to have a good talk with them tomorrow. I don't want this to be a problem with my next surgery. I told them if the prescription says every 4 hours then that is for the whole 24 hours. When I have trouble sleeping because of the pain then I may take pain medication during the night. The surgeon told me before the surgery that this is a hard surgery and they would be giving me stronger drugs. I guess if I can past the PA's I may be able to get something.

I won't be seeing him again until the surgery day. I kept back 1 Percocet pill and 1 Lortab so I can take those tomorrow because it is a 2 hour drive and it really bothers me and hopefully will get some prescription and I will fill them down there at Walgreen's.

Thanks again and I am trying to just stay down today.

Gentle Hugs
Linda
 
Linda, I am so thankful that your husband is recovering and doesn't have to have chemo or radiation. That is such a blessing! How are you feeling? I am glad the double dose of Lyrica gave you some relief. I pray that you will heal and be able to continue with your next surgery. By the way, you have one wonderful husband to help you out...I am very thankful to have one of those myself! Love, Tam
 
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