is it bad for me, a 16 year old, to be in love with a 19 year old whose in jail for...

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Savannah

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...putting his hands on me? we have been together for almost 3 years now and i love him with all my heart and i dont want to lose him,... so what should i do??
 
No, it is not.
My friend was in a situation just like that.
She was fifteen and he was eighteen, they went out since she was like ten and grew up together, they fell in love.
But he got her pregnant and when he found out he started telling her to get an abortion and hitting her and abusing her and whatnot.
Everytime someone told her to leave him she'd be like 'i love him more than anything, i'm pregnant with his baby.' and all this other stuff.
If i were you, I'd try to talk to him about it and try to get him to change. Try visiting him and talking to him..try getting him to understand how you feel about it. That sounds like an unfortunate situation, I'm sorry to hear about it. I hope it all works out for you.
 
What exactly do you mean by "putting his hands on me"?? Do you mean in a violent way? If so, get over him as that isn't love and you could end up dead one day- that is abuse.

If you mean in an intimate way, just because of your ages, then no. My first BF was 19 and I was 16. 16 year old guys were immature way back then and these days, it is even worse. If you have been together 3 years, he was 16 and you were 13 when you met.

However, both of you will do a lot of changing. Exactly what were the charges? If it was not violence related then maybe the two of you can see how it goes when he gets out. It is important to remember you are very young and love can feel like love even when it isn't or it isn't in your best interest. Good luck.
 
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