Is it alright to set my wedding date 6 months before my soon-to-be

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Sarah

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sister-in-law? She doesn't think so!? My soon to be sister-in-law, Claire, got engaged in December 2008 to my fiance's brother and set a date of October 2010. My fiance and I got engaged in April 2009. I want to set my wedding date for April 2010, and have a traditional one year engagement, but Claire thinks I am being selfish and rude because I am getting married before her. I don't think having a 6 months gap between our weddings is a big deal, but apparantly she does. She thinks my fiance and I shouldn't get married the same year as they are. Am I really being rude or is she being a little crazy?
Well, we are both 25 years old, but at very different points in our lives. I've been working as a teacher for three years now, and she is still in grad school.
 
Planning a wedding 6 months apart is perfectly reasonable. You are not putting any type of time or financial stress on your common relatives.

She chose to have a longer engagement, you do not have to put off your wedding for her 2 year engagement. She did not buy the rights to those 2 years. Other people can get married during that time period.

My guess is that she is a young Bride.
 
First of all....

You can be engaged for as long or short a period of time as you wish.....no one else's engagement or wedding dictates the length of some one else's. So Claire is outta gas with that one.

Second of all

You get ONE DAY...not the entire month or the entire year.....so once again Claire is outta gas.

Third of all

Just because you got engaged after her does not mean you have to get married after her...oops, still outta gas....

Claire is being controlling, crazy, bratty, and down right silly...ignore any histrionics, dear. With 6 months between each wedding there won't be any issues with mutual guests.
 
You aren't being rude or unreasonable. Her marriage is her marriage and yours is yours. The fact that she thinks that she can force you to change your wedding date because she's getting married the same year is rude. She gets a day, not a year.

If you both happen to get pregnant around the same time, is she going to demand you don't give birth in until after she does?

Don't let this girl ruin your wedding or re-arrange your plans based on what she wants - it's YOUR wedding and it should be about you not her.
 
You shouldn't have to put your plans on hold for her!

Now if you planned your wedding within a few weeks of hers then I would say you should have picked a different date but 6 months is plenty of time between.

Tell her she is being selfish for trying to dictate when you should get married because it has nothing to do with her.
 
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