Is is ok for an ex husband to be invited to a graduation ceremony after a big

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divorce ordeal? my girlfriend just got divorce this year and her brother is inviting her ex-husband to his HS graduation. Although, it's his graduation, this ex took away her sisters kids and made a mockery of her during court. She states it's ok that he attends. She gets emotional about her kids at times and wishes she has custody of the kids. Her ex, does not want to give up the kids and no overnights are granted. Her graduating brother still wants to invite him per what she says.
Her ex-husband has been invited. He has primary custody. I just don't want to see her upset. At times, she feels very angry towards him and at times, she is ok with him. I am confused. I have lived with her for about a year.
my girlfriends ex-husband. She did have a bad attorney, They are of a religion of that MORMON. So, how can a religion like that let custody to someone who does not grant overnights. I am not MORMON, but respect all religions.
 
I agree with Nicky. Beyond the fact that the ex-husband has custody of the kids, the fact that no overnights are granted is pretty powerful. It is difficult enough for men to get joint custody let alone sole custody. There is something really strange about this situation that she isn't telling you.

Are you looking at this red flag instead of simply a damsel in distress in front of you??? That red flag is awfully big. And I am sure she plays the victim very well. There is a lot more to the story.

As for the brother inviting his ex-bil to the graduation ceremony. Yeah. That's what happens sometimes. And in their post-divorce world, that will be part of their reality. Either accept it or move on.

BTW....my husband's nephew through his first marriage invited us to the wedding and reception. We wound up sending our regrets...but it was a testament to how my husband, his ex and I have handled the post-divorce world that the kids and extended family members all feel comfortable with us being in the same room or at the same event.
 
Just who is the graduation party for? Is it for the mother? Is it for the other relatives? No, it's for the kid who is graduating.

When my step kids graduated my wife had all three of us there. Her first husband, her second husband and, finally, me, her current husband. It was for the kids. It was right.

We are adults. We should be able to deal with the situation, no matter what it is.
 
It's his graduation, but it's going to be mighty uncomfortable for the boy's sister. why he didn't think of his sister is a bit much. How in the world did he get complete custody with NO over nite visits is pretty rough. He must have had one great atty. where she can't even have therm sleep over, what a total shame. That has to be so hurtful. i couldn't put my sister thru that. Hopefully he'll keep his distance from her, best to her tho...:)
 
It's their business, you shouldn't get involved in this. He had a relationship with her family as well. Let them figure out what works for them. If she doesn't even have visitation rights, she either has issues (which she's not sharing with you) or had an incredibly bad lawyer.
 
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