Is he being optimistic about us staying together after he gets out of the military?

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My boyfriend and I have been together a little over a month. He just graduated from high school and I'll be a Junior this year. He's taking his ASVAB (military qualifying exam) soon and planning to head into either the Air Force and be a Parachute Jumper or to the Navy and join the Seals (ambitious, I know).

Anyway, we know we're staying together through his training and I'm backing him on his decision one hundred percent, but recently he brought up the fact that he wants me to be there through his first four years of duty and maybe even if he stays on for twenty.

I love him and I support him, but four years, or especially twenty, is a very long time. He's said he wants to be with me "a while" (because he knows if he says forever he'll scare me off) and I don't know if I'm old or mature enough to make that kind of commitment. Should I tell him this and be realistic?
 
Honey I am not saying this to be mean, but most relationships like yours dont last in the military very long. He will be away from home and those guys are a whole nother breed. He will change for good and for bad, he will see other places and other women both in and outside of the military and chances are pretty darn good he will be deployed given his choices.
The current divorce rate for those who are married on first tour in the military is 60+% and it goes up from there and most are very young.
Now with that said, it is possible you will make it if you are very dedicated to each other its just very rare.
 
You are too young to be making lifelong decisions like this. Believe me, after he has been in the military for a little bit he will feel differently about it.
 
You already know the answer to this ?. It is in your comments about your ?.

If you want someone to agree with you and back you up, I am one of those people who will do that.

No you are not mature enough or old enough to make that kind of commitment. And Yes you should tell him and be realistic.

Support him in quest for Military Service and Stand by him as a friend.
From there you will grow.

Good Luck
 
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