is having sex appeal important?

[Tee]

i like females from the inside out, meaning personality 1st, looks 2nd. but i have been told that i dont have any sex appeal. i dont want a woman to be sexually attracted to me off the back because then i feel like she wants to just hook up and im not that type of girl. im still a virgin and im in my early 20s. anyway, i usually wear jeans/tshirt and occasionally a lowcut top. im not trying to be sexy, but this one girl told me thats why some females arent interested in pursuing anything further than friendship