I have a lot of guy friends and get along with them more than girls. I'm very nice to them and I honestly think they're the greatest to have as friends. I have two brothers whom are my best friends. But sometimes I have the problem when a guy asks me out and I think, 'great, you ruined it. what's wrong with just being friends?' And I have to turn them down politely while still trying to be friends. And I HATE saying no, with anything. Puts me on the spot. -_-
I'm single but I like being single right now and am not interested in dating anyone right now. And they find that amusing? But whatever.
And then, the other day, I had a thought. (Now, to the actual question) Is it wrong of me to compliment a guy and give them an ego boost? I notice a lot of guys have big egos these days. And I work with a lot of guys, and they like to complain a lot at work. So because we're friends and I care, I like to tell them they're doing a good job to make them feel better. Sometimes it's not work related. Maybe a topic we're talking about. And I'll compliment them on this or that. And they smile and I can almost see their head grow a bit bigger. lol But it makes me happy that I made them happy.
But is this wrong? Is there a limit to boosting a guy's ego? Should I be careful? I actually had a scary thought the other day and wondered if someday a guy won't accuse me of being a tease. And that's the last thing I'm trying to be. I'm only friendly, but am I being too nice?
Weird thing about me is that I'm very sweet and polite. But then my sarcasm is kinda harsh but not too harsh. Just surprising and then they call me mean but laugh. And it's kind of the sarcastic joke where I will criticize them or point out something they did wrong but in a funny way, so it's obvious I'm joking around with them. And I act nice to them the rest of the time to let them know I really do care.
I don't know. I just don't want to get a guy's hope up by being nice to them and being friends, only to hurt their feeling if they try asking me out. I've had a few ask me out, I've had to turn them down, but so far we're still very good friends, except for the occasional, "Are you sure you don't want to go out?" AND I let them know it's TOTALLY not them. It's me and I'm just not up for a relationship right now. Like I said, all I care about is making sure I don't offend them and hurt their feelings. I value all my guy friends. <3
So any helpful advice from you guys out there?
I'm single but I like being single right now and am not interested in dating anyone right now. And they find that amusing? But whatever.
And then, the other day, I had a thought. (Now, to the actual question) Is it wrong of me to compliment a guy and give them an ego boost? I notice a lot of guys have big egos these days. And I work with a lot of guys, and they like to complain a lot at work. So because we're friends and I care, I like to tell them they're doing a good job to make them feel better. Sometimes it's not work related. Maybe a topic we're talking about. And I'll compliment them on this or that. And they smile and I can almost see their head grow a bit bigger. lol But it makes me happy that I made them happy.
But is this wrong? Is there a limit to boosting a guy's ego? Should I be careful? I actually had a scary thought the other day and wondered if someday a guy won't accuse me of being a tease. And that's the last thing I'm trying to be. I'm only friendly, but am I being too nice?
Weird thing about me is that I'm very sweet and polite. But then my sarcasm is kinda harsh but not too harsh. Just surprising and then they call me mean but laugh. And it's kind of the sarcastic joke where I will criticize them or point out something they did wrong but in a funny way, so it's obvious I'm joking around with them. And I act nice to them the rest of the time to let them know I really do care.
I don't know. I just don't want to get a guy's hope up by being nice to them and being friends, only to hurt their feeling if they try asking me out. I've had a few ask me out, I've had to turn them down, but so far we're still very good friends, except for the occasional, "Are you sure you don't want to go out?" AND I let them know it's TOTALLY not them. It's me and I'm just not up for a relationship right now. Like I said, all I care about is making sure I don't offend them and hurt their feelings. I value all my guy friends. <3
So any helpful advice from you guys out there?