Intimacy issues near the end of pregnancy...?

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Le Fae

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I will be 39 weeks pregnant, with our first, on Monday. I have had almost no sex drive the entire pregnancy, save for the 2 times I was actually able to get into it. I feel so guilty, my husband is great and says he completely understands, but I know it is getting hard (no pun intended!). I also know of the benefits of sex and sperm for labor...My body just won't listen to what my brain wants! I also have a some trouble getting past the 'third person in the room' thing, especially since he has dropped a bit and is literally on the other side of my cervix now...

My question is how were you able to get in the mood at this late stage of the game? I am just looking for some ideas on how I can give some much needed attention to my husband, as well as get the benefits for labor. I really don't want to just have to bend over, lube up, and take it, and I am thinking that is where I am headed...

Thanks!
 
i am nowhere near as far along as you are, but i too sometimes have intimacy issues; i just dont want it. try a lot of foreplay. and what i mean by foreplay, is have your husband do all of the work. lol. kissing, rubbing, etc. and instead of bending over, lay on your sides with him behind you. its still from behind, of course, but its more intimate because you are closer, and you can still look at eachother.

i hope this helps!! good luck and congrats!!!
 
HA I FEEL YOUR PAIN ITS HORRIBLE...SOMETHING THAT WORKED FOR ME WAS LOTS OF FOREPLAY AND HIM DOING THINGS SUCH AS SCRATCHING MY BACK LIGHTLY AND KISSING ON MY NECK AND EARS...ALSO A LITTLE PORN NEVER HURT!
 
Im 39 weeks and for the last maybe 3 months is have been having intamacy issues.. I have been feeling exactly the same as you and feel soooo guilty but we 39 weeks - less then 2 weeks to go before they will induce us and i think you should just hang in there. If you do just "bend over, lube up and take it" it may cause emotional problems.. An if you really arent into it then i dont think it will benefit you much to go into labour. Plus if your husband knows your not into it then he wont feel into it

You sound very lucky to have such an understanding husband - i dont think it will worry him too much.
 
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