Intimacy/afraid of the physical stuff?

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rio14

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Okay well i'm 17, a bit overly innocent and haven't done anything except kiss. I love going out meeting guys, flirting with them and i'm actually quite confident and outgoing in a social situation. But when someone tries to kiss me i either shy away from it or don't enjoy it and try to make sure it doesn't happen again :S. Because of this i haven't ever had a boyfriend/serious relationship. Is there something wrong with me?? To not want to do the physical stuff even though i've had plenty of opportunity :/ I feel like I haven't met anyone i really really like yet but still to be scared of that at my age i think is kind of weird and uncommon. My family wouldn't be supportive of me dating, i was sort of brought up to think against it and its not that i want to turn into something that i'm not, i just need to know what i can do to overcome my fear! I'll be going to uni this autumn and i don't want to be the weird never-done-anything girl who pushes everyone away. I don't want to ruin what could be a good relationship with someone because i'm too scared to kiss them! Its so strange because if you met me in person you'd never think it :(. Anyway sorry for the ramble and thanks for reading this far! I realise i sound rather immature, but in every other aspect of my life i'm not, it's just this :/ I would really appreciate any advice. Thanks everyone! :)
 
I used to be just like you :) I think, from what I've read, that you'd just rather wait until you really connect with someone before moving to the next level. And that's perfectly fine :) but if you're worried that when you DO meet someone you really like and it doesn't go as planned, why not just have a few fun flings. Maybe go on a date or two and don't do anything more than hold hands or kiss. It doesn't have to get serious on the first date. It's up to you where it goes from there, and if you don't like a particular person, be honest (not too cruel though) and let them know you don't want anything serious or you don't want to go any further etc. Hope this helps a bit :)
 
I guess if ur not ready then dont do it....but u r 17 n kissin doesn't make u a whore or anythin...I'm 19 n only kissed 3 guys one I was wit for 4 years so ya....but maybe u should try datin n findin a guy u like so it don't fell weird for u
 
I guess if ur not ready then dont do it....but u r 17 n kissin doesn't make u a whore or anythin...I'm 19 n only kissed 3 guys one I was wit for 4 years so ya....but maybe u should try datin n findin a guy u like so it don't fell weird for u
 
I guess if ur not ready then dont do it....but u r 17 n kissin doesn't make u a whore or anythin...I'm 19 n only kissed 3 guys one I was wit for 4 years so ya....but maybe u should try datin n findin a guy u like so it don't fell weird for u
 
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