Intimacy/afraid of the physical stuff?

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rio14

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Okay well i'm 17, a bit overly innocent and haven't done anything except kiss. I love going out meeting guys, flirting with them and i'm actually quite confident and outgoing in a social situation. But when someone tries to kiss me i either shy away from it or don't enjoy it and try to make sure it doesn't happen again :S. Because of this i haven't ever had a boyfriend/serious relationship. Is there something wrong with me?? To not want to do the physical stuff even though i've had plenty of opportunity :/ I feel like I haven't met anyone i really really like yet but still to be scared of that at my age i think is kind of weird and uncommon. My family wouldn't be supportive of me dating, i was sort of brought up to think against it and its not that i want to turn into something that i'm not, i just need to know what i can do to overcome my fear! I'll be going to uni this autumn and i don't want to be the weird never-done-anything girl who pushes everyone away. I don't want to ruin what could be a good relationship with someone because i'm too scared to kiss them! Its so strange because if you met me in person you'd never think it :(. Anyway sorry for the ramble and thanks for reading this far! I realise i sound rather immature, but in every other aspect of my life i'm not, it's just this :/ I would really appreciate any advice. Thanks everyone! :)
 
Don't be afraid! Just be confident, don't question it, just go with the flow and let what happens, happen. Enjoy that they are sharing a kiss with you, which(hopefully, some guys are jerks) means that they really like you. Maybe because you haven't had a very serious relationship or a boyfriend, you just are not comfortable with all of the physical stuff, but as you do begin to date all of these fears will go away and you will be comfortable with all of this. Good Luck and hope I helped!
 
I dont think you have anything to worry about. When you go to Uni , you arent obliged to disclose to your friends what you have and havent done , its your private life not to do with them. you dont sound immature and weird.I would advice you to wait for marriage for all this intimacy and kissing , but thats just a minority view that people will slate me for. you know when a guy kisses you , his hormones start getting his body ready for sex , he gets aroused and wants more than just a kiss then.....
I think you need to relax and not worry so much about nothing, and good luck for Uni
 
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