Insucurity? Or Mental?

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righlee18

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I'm not sure if I am on the right thread for this topic, but I guess someone will let me know.

I don't know if what I have is insucurity, or some other mental illness. Maybe someone can help me. I am not a very book smart person, due to never being in school my whole childhood. Parents didn't care enouph to send me. But I am very world smart, and I feel like I can read people by their actions and facial exspessions. As well as many of us probably can. But...to finally get to the point. I am extremely jealous! I am down on myself all the time, I feel like I am not good enouph for anything. Family always tells me that I am pretty, but I think I am ugly. I am getting old looking, I am not as thin as I used to be, and my health is falling apart. I think I am haveing anxiety issues, but not sure. I can't breath, I get mad when my husband follows my younger, much more attractive sister-in-law around with his eyes, is always in a good mood around her, and as soon as we leave, he's a crab. Am I being stupid? I can't get over it. It's like someone is taking a knife to my chest and turning it over and over again. I get the shakes, and my heart starts to beat hard. I don't want to go through this any more. I can't stand being around my sis-in-law. But we are....at least twice a week. My husband knows how this makes me feel, but he says its my problem, and just keeps on doing it. I really do feel like I have a mental issue. What do you think? :confused: What can I do? I feel totally helpless!

CT
 
Hi - Well, first, it is extremely common to feel a little self-concious, as one grows older, the looks start to fade, I mean, as a young woman, becomes a grown woman...But there is a difference!! Nothing wrong with being a grown attractive woman!! As for the physcal symptoms, sounds absolutely like anxiety, and if they get worse, I would suggest a pschologist or psychiatrist, psychiastrists can just skip to the medication part..... (Easier) as for your husbands actions, I think he is being very insensitive to you. Sure "looking but not touching" it normal, but when he knows how it bothers you, it is more than YOUR problem. Its his. Also, they might move this to the anxiety or realationship board, lets just hope they tell you... but I think your feelings, be they in your head or physical, are all normal right now. Best wishes, Sherbear38
 
hey sherbear,

Thank you for posting. Wouldn't a medical doctor be able to diagnose the same problem and perscribe the needed medication? And what would medicating do for the insecure part of me? It seems the older I get the worse I get. Is that normal too? I feel like if I got rid of the problem, (husband) I wouldn't feel this way any more, kind of like getting a rotten tooth pulled out. NO MORE PAIN! Let him be someone else's rotten tooth. LOL

CT
 
Dear CTNC1234 - In my experience, most MD.'s are men of science, and send depression or anxiety patients to the shrinks, and from THERE , may prescribe. As much as we like to think they are all friendly, while they are saying" hi, how how are you?" Chances are they're checking out your fingernails and hair condition while they're saying it. Meds may help the anxiety, the shakes, insecurities are better talked out wi. somebody. Everyone has them! I don't know how serious you are about your marriage...so hard to say if thats the answer or not!
 
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