Inability to make decisions

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Does anyone else have a problem making decisions? I seriously get so stressed out when I have to make a decision. My husband and I were recently out shopping and I was buying clothes or trying to buy clothes and I couldn't even make a decision when it came to something that simple! I've always been somewhat indecisive, but anymore I can't make any decisions for myself and I have a hard time concentrating. Is this anxiety or what?
 
I too have this happen to me. It can be as minor as deciding on what to order from a restaurant menu to choosing what school to send my children to. I get really stressed out which then turns to depression. I'd love to know more about what causes this & what we can do to help over come it.
 
I get this way too! Honestly, I feel like I am just overwhelmed from being anxious about OTHER things, so little decisions become very difficult. I've been pretty stressed from wedding planning on top of my career (which is still relatively new for me, so I am still learning). I've had to make so many decisions and it boggles my mind. I have started just saying "Okay, just do this!" and not really caring because it makes my mind spin to have to think about it and actually choose. Then I get migraines or headaches if I think too hard. Do you all feel like you have a lot on your mind? It can be anxiety related due to a lot going on, situational anxiety, or just stress in general! I know some people who seem pretty calm and still get stressed about decision-making. I tend to get a little bit obsessive about certain things. You mentioned shopping- If there is something I want and a store runs out of it, I will literally spend hours searching online for a replacement item! It's crazy and I wish I didn't do it, but it almost consumes me. I am working on getting over it by making little changes gradually, but it's tough. My old counselor thought it could be OCD-related, since I have some other OCD symptoms. Luckily they aren't too severe where they are interfering with my life, so I choose to work on it on my own! It's my anxiety I went to the doctor for help for!
 
^^ You sound so much like I do. I stress out over things stores are sold out of too and then will spend hours online looking for it or calling around trying to find it! My husband goes crazy when I get that way. What makes is so bad is that I will know that a store has what I want and then I make a MILLION excuses why I don't need it now or shouldn't get it now and then I decide that I have to have it after I know it's sold out. It's terrible. I have OCD also and I tend to be a perfectionist so making a decision for me can be excrutiating sometimes.

I'm 26, stay at home with my son and my husband works a lot because of the nature of his job he has a lot of travel, both in the US and Europe so I get stressed out with that, but most of the time I have to say, there isn't a ton that should give me the level of anxiety I have. I'm trying to enjoy and focus on the blessings and good fortune that I do have instead of the negative all the time, but I guess that takes some time to retrain your brain.
 
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