I am in college and just started spring quarter. I met my first teacher who was extremely mean and heartless. She counted me absent (and you are only allowed two) for having my cell phone (which was on silent) on my desk. I wasn't even using it, but have to keep it close by because I have a special needs child who I need to keep tabs on. The professor took me to her office, where she began yelling at me. She basically called me stupid among other things. I am 25 and far from a child. However I had to go sit in a bathroom stall while I pulled myself together. I am meeting with the Dean tomorrow. My question is, what are my options. I've been feeling distressed over her constant name calling. Is there somewhere or someone I can report this to besides the school?
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In serious distress. Help.
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khmershinobi
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If you needed to be able to check your phone due to your childs needs, why didn't you approach her before the beginning of the first class?
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If she continues to have an issue with you and your phone, even after you have talked to her about it, if it is truly necessary for you to have it, talk to the dean.
If you needed to be able to check your phone due to your childs needs, why didn't you approach her before the beginning of the first class?
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If she continues to have an issue with you and your phone, even after you have talked to her about it, if it is truly necessary for you to have it, talk to the dean.
She is not a stranger...she is a professor who I have to take to pass the class. No other instructors are offered and I dont feel, as an adult, I should be taking verbal abuse from a teacher. And yes, it does upset me. I don't like being called stupid and a waste of space. That may not bother some people, but I have a 4.0 and take my school seriously. Also, having a cell phone in college is not breaking the rules, especially if you are not using it.
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What I meant by stranger is that she does not know you personally, as in you are not close, not friends or such.
If she called you stupid and a waste of space, then by all means report her.
Do not take it personally, her words are no reflection of you, they are a reflection of her and obviously she has some serious issues, if this is how she treats her students. Especially ones who work hard and maintain a 4.0.
Brush of her insults, they are meaningless, in the grand scheme of things; but by no means do I mean let her get away with treating you poorly. Just don't let her keep you from eating or having a good day.
If she called you stupid and a waste of space, then by all means report her.
Do not take it personally, her words are no reflection of you, they are a reflection of her and obviously she has some serious issues, if this is how she treats her students. Especially ones who work hard and maintain a 4.0.
Brush of her insults, they are meaningless, in the grand scheme of things; but by no means do I mean let her get away with treating you poorly. Just don't let her keep you from eating or having a good day.
I know for a fact that getting an attorney involved in a situation where you have
no control , is very eye-opening. My daughter is a lawyer and has brought this to my attention several times.This worked for me.....when my kids had a problem in school,I would go to the teacher or dean involved,and carry a tool to the meeting.That tool would be a pocket-sized notebook,and a pen/pencil.I would open the notebook, slowly,to a blank page,and state that I was ready for the meeting.It changed the atmosphere ,as a written record would come in handy,and the teach knew it.Read up on self-esteem,and some of the other "self's".Good luck. Bill
no control , is very eye-opening. My daughter is a lawyer and has brought this to my attention several times.This worked for me.....when my kids had a problem in school,I would go to the teacher or dean involved,and carry a tool to the meeting.That tool would be a pocket-sized notebook,and a pen/pencil.I would open the notebook, slowly,to a blank page,and state that I was ready for the meeting.It changed the atmosphere ,as a written record would come in handy,and the teach knew it.Read up on self-esteem,and some of the other "self's".Good luck. Bill
It sounds like it's time for you to take control. When you see the Dean listen to what he has to say then tell him your side. But at the end you must tell him firmly that you will not tolerate her behaviour under any cicumstances, you are a 25 year old mother with a special needs child. Your calmness but firm tone will tell him you are serious and no child. It is not up to you to change her way of behaving thats his job. Niknak and friendsville's advice is great taking notes should stop her in her tracks.
I've got to commend you on returning to college with a child to look after. I watched my sister do the same and get a degree in the end, I saw how much hard work it was for her. Good luck tomorrow!
I've got to commend you on returning to college with a child to look after. I watched my sister do the same and get a degree in the end, I saw how much hard work it was for her. Good luck tomorrow!
Frynd-
This treatment you are being subjected to is verbal assault and abuse- period. Her calling you stupid and a waste of space is also defamation of character. No one deserves to be treated that way, and her marking you absent when you are in class is illegal.
I think it's wonderful you are trying to further your education, and take care of your son and for her to treat you this way is unacceptable to say the very least.
Report her to the Dean, and then find out if there is some kind of educational board that manages the college and report her there.
I wish you the best with this. Be strong and know that you have done nothing wrong.
This treatment you are being subjected to is verbal assault and abuse- period. Her calling you stupid and a waste of space is also defamation of character. No one deserves to be treated that way, and her marking you absent when you are in class is illegal.
I think it's wonderful you are trying to further your education, and take care of your son and for her to treat you this way is unacceptable to say the very least.
Report her to the Dean, and then find out if there is some kind of educational board that manages the college and report her there.
I wish you the best with this. Be strong and know that you have done nothing wrong.