rockatthebeach
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is broken...I can hardly sleep...? Yeah, she told me she kissed this guy at his place after there class at the local comm. college when giving him a ride home. They got stoned (which she hardly ever does) and "accidentally" made out for a minute before she realized "she was being out of integrity", and left. Meanwhile, my trust for her has plummeted. I literally shake and feel my stomach turning when we are at home together. After four years, she tells me this. How can I believe she hasn't done more than"kiss" this guy? Just weeks ago we were discussing our potential married life and bringing kids into the world. My head cannot stop entertaining the idea of taking some time for myself, but cannot afford the added expense of moving out and setting up elsewhere. I love her to death, we've gone through a lot together, but doesn't this action of her's clearly display her unhappiness with being in relationship with me? She went on to say that we don't have a lot of sex, and she feels depressed much of the time, watching episodes on Hulu.
Do I try to find a way to forgive her mistake, knowing we're just human?
Do I stay true to the gut feeling (and anger) and give this some time, alone? What would that look like?
She knows I'm upset, and is giving me extra space to digest this information. She tells me she loves me and will see someone for help (a friend and therapist).
Ugghhh...I just want this to blow over and have it b what it was before.
Do I try to find a way to forgive her mistake, knowing we're just human?
Do I stay true to the gut feeling (and anger) and give this some time, alone? What would that look like?
She knows I'm upset, and is giving me extra space to digest this information. She tells me she loves me and will see someone for help (a friend and therapist).
Ugghhh...I just want this to blow over and have it b what it was before.